August 26th, 2011 by rob white
Please note: I am a guest at Jk Allen’s Blog in a
special feature called Conversations with rob
When I mingle with right thoughts, I know the people to mingle with for right relationships. James Allen is just such a person for me. Those who really want to know the secrets of success listen to those who really want to uncover the secrets, and want to share them. Jk is such a person. I am delighted to work with Jk so he can share what he discovers with you. It is not risky at all to risk exposing oneself in favor of finding the truth. Jk is taking this risk. How can you find answers to your dreams and aspirations in a minimum of time? I suggest you go on over to the Hustler’s Notebook and participate with Jk. I can promise you that it will leave you in a different place than you are right now.
Now, lets get on with this week’s Blog: Gold Every Day
Imagine engaging in the fine art of self-discovery every day. If you sincerely did this, you would discover gold every day. The art of self-discovery is most fascinating. It makes apparent the foolishness of running after false goals.
Whatever false pleasure we get from false goals today, we pay for tomorrow:
(1.) Have you ever sacrificed a friendship because you insisted you were right and refused to back down? (insisting on being right – false goal) 
(2.) Have you ever said something just to look good, and end up regretting it later? (trying to look good – false goal)
(3.) Have you ever tried to dominate a situation for fear of being dominated, only to have it come back to bite you? (trying to dominate – false goal)
(4.) Have you ever said something just for ego-satisfaction, and had it backfire? (ego-satisfaction – false goal)
Engaging in the art of self-discovery always yields true gold:
(1.) Have you ever sought to understand something in spite of your obstinate point of view? (seeking to understand helps you learn more about the truly flexible you – fabulous goal)
(2.) Have you ever forgiven someone for something they did even though it was difficult to do? (when you forgive others, you forgive yourself for begrudging thoughts you hold about yourself, and immediately you start taking yourself lightly. When you lighten up, you discover hidden talents that you didn’t know were there – fabulous goal)
(3.) Have you ever interrupted your usual thoughts by becoming more aware of what’s really going on around you? (when you interrupt usual thoughts, you allow spontaneous insights to come to you; insights about your creative side – fabulous goal)
(4.) Have you ever quieted your mind, and sought to see things differently? (when you seek to see things differently, the first thing you see differently is YOU. You discover more about your true nature: you are marvelously made and destined to win at whatever you set your mind to – fabulous goal)
Self-discovery is a full time job. You can practice it a home, in the office, while in the car, and at the bowling alley. Be wholeheartedly receptive to discovering more about yourself, and you will be the richest man (woman) in the world. It’s all pure gold!
If you catch yourself pursuing a false goal, stop and ask for more light. More light will show you the foolishness of your goal. Now you can get back to what’s truly important, and use the light for self-discovery. That’s what life is really all about.
Read this again.
Connect it with your life.
Think deeply about what it means to you.
Please share your thoughts, and perhaps a personal story?
Thank you, and blessings, rob
“Best Comment of the Week.” This weeks best comment comes from Patricia of Patricia’s Wisdom. The runner up is Rus. Thank you both for your honest, heartfelt sharing. See their comments here.
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Hi Rob,
I think this is my favourite of all the posts I’ve read here so far! I like how you define these stupid little things we do as having an objective of seeking a false goal! It puts them in a completely different light. Who wants to be going in the wrong direction!?!? Not me!
And those four beautiful “fabulous goals” – how refreshing! I’m asking for more light!
When I wrote about replacing worry thoughts with thoughts of gratitude, Kaarina wrote that she has a system which involved flipping on a light switch. I like the image of asking for more light or turning on a switch. Worry thoughts, and the others outlined as false goal-seeking thoughts are all dark thoughts, aren’t they? Turning on the light, asking for more light. Seems simple enough.Who wants to be in the dark?
Not me.
Lori
Hi Lori. You’re asking for more light because you are a disciple of growth and development as a human being. How strange, so few think they have the right to ask for more light. Thank you for that. blessings
Hi Rob,
I read JK’s blog earlier and I’m having a fabulous Rob day!
I love the questions you ask, both in JK’s post and here.
I especially like the question about forgiveness. It made me remember a particular time when a friend hurt me. He was too afraid to tell me that something bothered me and let it fester for months, never giving me an indication. Finally, he was going to just throw the friendship away. I could’ve let him go. I could’ve stayed mad, called him names, regretted our friendship, negated its importance, etc. But I didn’t. As hard as it was, I put my heart on the table and talked to him. I forgave him and I stayed his friend. I showed him how to communicate and it turned into the deepest friendship I’d ever had. All because I wasn’t willing to let my bruised ego run the show. This incident sticks out because I had never done that up until that point and it was so empowering. Still is, actually…
Thanks for your wonderful questions. You just rock.
2 Hugs for you today,
Melody
Hi Melody. thank you for bringing up ‘For-Giveness’. To For-Give is to GIVE up our current resentful point of view FOR something fresh and new. And then there is nothing to forgive! ponder that. blessings
Self-discovery is the expedition to Sharngri-La Rob; an ultimate journey to the wisdom and treasures of ages. But few go that way, beyond the extra mile, into the uncharted inner terrain of themselves. Sure, I’ve said, done, acted, and thought wrong by others but always done wrong by myself as a result. That wasn’t me, just a 3D cardboard cut-out. That’s why it’s hard to look in the mirror – to face yourself. I’ve left my old haunts to uncover a new me, it’s the only way to go beyond a person I know too well but is too limited too. That’s the first port of call in self-discovery; go past the person you know and find a new, ever shining one. Yes, it’s hard but you will stand on top of your own Everest. Look in the mirror, see yourself, in the eyes, in the soul. Start the quest back to yourself.
Hi John. You’d better watch out. The creative genius is coming out in you. Wonderful comment. When we understand what it means to be loyal to ourselves, we know what it means to be a superlatively creative human being. blessings
Hi Rob,
Forgiveness is a huge one for me. I spent many, many years holding onto anger and regret about what I perceived others did to me.
To let go and forgive truly allowed my heart to open up again, in which my good vibes began to take over.
Hi Justin. thank you for sharing that ‘forgiveness’ is a big one for you. Forgiveness is an unnatural state which truth conquers. Now your good vibes take over (as you mentioned). blessings
Hi Rob, You have me thinking about all my goals now and I’m glad to say I think I’m on the right track. This wasn’t always the case though. I remember through High School and even through college my goals were all about looking good and fitting in. It makes me feel kind of gross now. When I think about how much time I spent trying to be cool in a sorority yechhhh!!!! That’s sooo not who I am anymore. I see my goals as fulfilling my potential. If I can reach the upper levels of my professional goals that means I am helping the most amount of people. I like the idea of saying “I’m an executive” but now I see that really means I made the most of myself and can have a big impact on a lot of people. That’s more important than looking good in a fancy corner office.
hi Kara. I love how wonderfully generous you’ve become by sharing your life with us (so that we may learn more about ourselves). Live as if you are here to help others, and you help yourself most. That is what you are doing lately. thank you
Hi Rob,
Wonderful post! I took the path to self discovery years ago when I was in college in a psychology class called “psychology of self.” I must say that this was one of the best classes that I took ever. I learned a lot more about myself, my beliefs, and what I like and dislike things. Self discovery is never ending process my friend, it is a journey. This is why I LOVE personal development because it gives me a chance to know myself more. Years ago, I was stuck in negativity and I used to play the “victim” role often, it wasn’t until I made a decision to take responsibility for my life and actions that I started seeing positive improvement. Forgiveness is a major issue that many people struggle with. The way I think about forgiveness is when I give others, I let go of the resentment that I have inside me, so it is for my benefit and theirs to forgive.
Thanks my friend for sharing
Hi Dia. YES, when you forgive others, you let go of the resentment you are holding in you. When we hold resentment, it’s like we are drinking the emotional poison, hoping to make the other person sick. How insane. Ponder that for a moment. blessings
Hey brother. Thanks for making me runner up this week. Self discovery is most def a full time job. If I could give myself a real job title it would be “Self Discoverer”! I’ve dedicated my life to lifting that veil and finding the truth. It’s not something you can do on weekends and bank holidays – that is for sure! I love trying to understand new points of view. I am always excited when something shocks my way of seeing things. It’s like WHOA, I didn’t even know I could think like that! If that’s not fun, I don’t know what is. I think the best way to do this is by meeting different people from different cultures. Sometimes their customs and ways of thinking are so foreign it turns you paradigm upside down. At first it can be abrasive, but then I think… well, what’s the difference?? I could think that way just as easily as I could think anything else.
your wisdom is shining through. you mention that you can think like others are thinking as easily as you can think the way you want to think. That’s a great reason to examine your passing thoughts (to see if you are thinking for yourself or simply parroting others). Nice point. Thank you
Hi rob, self discovery is an ongoing journey, everyday, sometimes can be scary, “surely that’s not me, or am I really like that ? ” but I learn to accept it, knowing suffices, and some are so enlightening and bright, really really loving the journey, I am striking gold every time, full of wealth, yipee ya ya ! .
I want to shout out to the world (friends family), but experience some resistance, ‘truth can hurt’, well, only if we let it, we all know what to do but some are too scared and dubious about what they find.
Recently I have learnt to forgive, initially I resisted, but it came easy, I did so subconsciously (lost touch with them), and felt great tremendous relief. However there is one example I would have love to share, but can’t, only to describe it, by you just imagining in your mind the worst (I’m sorry if I have brought it up for you) that can ever happen to you or anyone, well that’s it ! (I know the worst in your mind may be different from what I am conveying to you, but it kinda puts you in the picture, so to speak), it ‘had lingered’ (no more) with me for a long long time, but I have let go and forgiven, phew ! what a great relief it was, it did hinder a process in my life but boy am I relieved I forgave.
Also I asked for forgiveness to those I wronged. Although sometimes we hurt or wrong others unknowingly, I believe that as long as what I do or say to others, with profound honest intentions NOT TO HURT, and I do so with genuine love and kindness of the heart, however the recipient reacts is their prerogative.
‘Have you ever interrupted your thoughts….’, My ego self would always be larking in the corner of my mind, I guess I cannot help that, but what helps me is, ‘knowing’ when it comes up, either I let it in or not is down to me, I bare the consequences whatever the results, knowing it’s there is more than enough for me.
Thank you yet again rob, your medium here has also yet again released and relieved me, it’s all out, although it was all out of me but actually writing and reading it, seeing it in black and white has put an unbreakable seal on it. Thank you
Wish you continued strength always.
Hi Tinu. It is only by thinking these thoughts that hurt you, by allowing these painful memories to enter your mind, and by so doing, give them the power to disturb you, that they have a sad impact on your heart. When you, Tinu, stop placing hurtful emotions in your internal conversations, and turn within to your spiritual side, and allow it to direct you, the pain of these memories will at once completely disappear, they will no longer be part of what you remember. They will dissolve into the nothingness from whence they came before you gave them life in your mind. Now you will have truly forgiven, and will be relieved of all painful burdens that you are carrying. Study this for a week. You will realize that in the absence of self-betrayal, no one can betray you. Blessings, blessings, blessings.
Thats a good one rob. I like the idea of finding a little gold nugget everyday. I’ve realized that feeling better, and happier is all about the little things I can do every day. I used to think that I would be struck by some kind of enlightenment and everything would be better (which only made me more irritable when it didn’t happen.) A real victory for me these days is when I don’t loose my cool when one of my guys messes up on a job …. it’s the lightening up thing you mention. It’s amazing, but just by getting a little less worked up over small screw ups everyday, all of a sudden at the end of the day I feel much, much better. You know I used to be a ball of agitation and fretting. The best part is that the more I lighten up the more everyone around me lightens up. Those little gold nuggets sure do add up.
Hi Roger. ‘Finding a golden nugget every day’. After a while, the captain gained full use of his mind. This is what golden nuggets do – give you command, so you can be captain. I am noticing more and more of this ‘captain quality’ in you, Roger. blessings
Hi Rob,
When I was younger I did some of the things you mention to be false goals. I would stop speaking to people and hold grudges etc. As I matured I changed – thank goodness. Now I know that we, each of us, is not the center of the Universe. We need to be open and listen to others and see through their eyes before we judge. The more open I am the more open my world and my trajectory in the world is – what a joy.
hi Angela. thank you for admitting that you had false goals. So many try to deny it. Seeing the truth encourages self-exploration, which can only lead to GOLD! Intellectual consent to rightness is not enough. You are on your way! blessings
Oh boy, I work with those dominating types all the time. I always feel a little bad for them because everyone knows how insecure they are deep down. They don’t fool anyone and they never earn any respect. But, such is life! We all have to deal with them from time to time – especially in the service industry. I’ve learned as long as I feel confident in my position and place, I can let them prattle on and on and take their BS and turn the other cheek. I have to calm my own ego to deal with other egos. I must say, now that you have me thinking about it; my best days are when I can come home and reflect upon handling a situation with tact so it works out for everybody in the end. The big ego can add to his big ego as long as I get the contract!
You could say that I get the gold and they get the fools gold! 
Hi Carol Anne. ‘Tact’ is a wonderful quality. The closer you get to someone in a relationship, the more important it is to use tact. How well you know that. thank you.
Very good robert. So many of us never realize that the goals we are seeking are actually causing us misery. It’s funny how it is often the ONE thing we think we want so bad, is actually the source of all our pain and suffering. Better to figure that sooner than later. Every year when I get the boat ready it’s a ton of work, and yeah it can be a pain in the butt at times, but ultimately the work gives me great satisfaction. When I took up golf it was endless frustration and agitation with a few happy accidents in between. It took me 4 years to figure out that Golf was making me miserable. One day I finally realized, “ya know what I hate golf!” and just let it go… what a relief that was.
Hi Salty. Indeed, it is amazing how so many folks cannot see that their goals lead them to misery. Wanting to be rich to look good. Wanting to be smart to prove you are superior. blah, blah, blah. Wandering dazingly along the deck of life, not knowing why they are sea sick. thank you
Oh I started my walk this morning feeling sorry for myself and my “unhappy” feet..and then I felt the breeze and found my rhythm and wow my thoughts just changed all the way around and I did one more 2 block section nearly pain free…just lightening up my mind and being in the moment and I was able to expand the walk and ease the pain…it is the work of everyday and sometimes of every hour…that deceitful thinking just wants to get there first…
Thank you for the comment honor…
Enjoyed your writing and idea sharing – many thanks
Now I am going to pop on over and read your guest words…
Hi Patricia. Thinking that deceives us into believing that we deserve to suffer in some fashion is the devil in action. This thinking will tell you that suffering brings rewards. You know better, Patricia. Once we see the deceit, a remarkable change occurs within us, after which a new self-clarity takes over. That self-clarity is occurring right now within you. It ends all distress. Blessings.
ugggghhh. I don’t know why I keep coming here. I think I usually end up a little more depressed! Ha. I have the courage to say I can check off all the false goals you have up there. Like I have this one friend I havent seen in years because he stiffed me on a months rent. He says I owed him for utilities etc etc blah blah. But we are both too stubborn to get beyond it. Which is too bad because we were tight buds. It’s just dumb now that I think about it. As for the other stuff, I pull that crap all the time when I go out with my friends and am trying to hook up and meet girls. It’s like a self-sabotage thing I do and I end up being the comic relief for everyone else. I don’t know, maybe I need new goals and new friends. Hmm… maybe I should just reach out to that old roommate…. he was a good wingman.
I know why you keep returning to this website, Alan. You are out of focus with reality, and you yearn for more of the truth. Just admit it. I see changes occurring with you. The next big one is to replace memorized behavior when originality. It’s right in front of you. blessings
Hi Rob,
I love this, especially the “Fabulous Goals”.
I had an experience last week where a customer really got me riled. This does not usually happen to me ever so I took a deep look at myself to figure out why I was so upset.
That, was the most enlightening thing I could have done. It turned out that it wasn’t really the customer that go me riled so much as my own personal feelings about the situation. I recognized that my perspective on this was the one thing I could change and that made all of the difference.
I’m so glad that I didn’t just blame the customer as that would not have solved anything, and the next time a similar situation presents itself, I can deal with it in a new and better way. Had I been busy being “right” I wouldn’t have figured things out.
Thanks as always Rob!
hi Jenny Ann. Consciously changing your perspective. That is a powerful quality to hone. You live the truth when you see the difference between your opinion of what’s true and reality. Pat yourself on the back every time you do that! Thank you for sharing. blessings
Robb…really good one here. I love this message about self discovery. One thing you said that I thought was so poignant and insightful was that it is a full time job. I know that is so true and it took me sometime to recognize that. It is something I work at continually and I appreciate your pointer in the right direction that in order to really do it fully, it must be done all the time.
hi Sibyl. it seems there are many things that we need to do all of the time (if we want to live our lives as we dream they can be). A big one is to seek truth always, and never compromise with erroneous thoughts. It’s clear that you take this goal seriously. thank you.
“Self-discovery is a full time job.” Ahhh!! I LOVE THIS!!! This is so, so true Rob and I’ve been “on the job” since my earliest recollections. The thing that draws me to you and your writing Rob is that you peel away the layers and weirdly I like things that make me uncomfortable.
Up until my early 20s, overall I was what I consider to be “shy.” I definitely lacked any self-esteem or confidence. I saw a world around me and though I watched, I rarely participated. My mind was always, always at work though and I was just very introspective. I wanted to be more outgoing and participate in life more, so I forced myself into some very uncomfortable situations and knew all the while that was what I was doing. One such event was becoming a patient visitor at a local hospital. This was so far outside of my comfort zone, but the glory of it all is that the voice that called me became the greatest and most meaningful part of my life. Since that day, I have tried to continuously be of service on different levels. It’s a constant teaching and growth experience; the biggest lesson being that it’s not about me and for that I’m glad. When you place yourself at the service of others, it’s actually selfish because you get so much more than you give. It’s the only thing outside my child that has kept me sane during some very turbulent times. That is my “gold everyday” so I guess I’m a very rich woman!
Thank you for your beautiful, profound posts Rob, you make a huge, wonderful difference in my life and I’m beyond grateful!
Peace to you my friend,
Elena
hi Elena. ‘Seeking to be in service on different levels’. I can sense that is what you are about. they you for bringing it out. As you progress to higher levels of experiencing this aspiration, you will be told by God that you are one of the finest pupils she has ever met. blessings
Hey Rob, you know this got me thinking because every time we (my band) plays out, there are always a few bands and musicians who you know are in it for the wrong reasons. You always seem to know who they are, they just give you a weird vibe of being posers or phonies or whatever. It’s not a certain look or clothes or style of music it’s just a bad vibe. My mind still wanders to thoughts of fame and fortune, but what keeps me going is this urge to just create. I can’t really explain that – either your feeling or your not.
hi john. Your urge to create is pure psychic gold. You are a very rich man as long as you succumb to this urge. blessings
Thanks Rob,
I never thought about the false goals we get distracted with, while searching for the fabulous goals.
I’ll have to remember that. I do make mistakes when it comes to letting my ego get in the way of my true goals.
Thanks for this.
Bryce
hi Bryce. Don’t we all make miss-takes when we allow our precious egos to get involved. To lose one’s ego is to find the one self, the true self. Simply contemplating this often is a great way to begin. The true self has unlimited potential and loves demonstrating it through you in a 1001 ways. Of course, you already know this. thank you.
Rob,
Self discovery is indeed a full time job with unlimited overtime. I have been trying to understand myself for years. I will be trying to understand myself for years. The beauty of this journey is that people like you help me find out more and more about the way my mind works everyday. I never would have been able to obtain the true meaning of false vs fabulous goals. Thanks for this insightful read.
hi Frank. You are coming closer to Ultimate Understandings, such as this one:
you are marvelously made and destined to win at whatever you set your mind to.
That one understanding right there puts you in absolute command of your earthly destiny. That is what you are looking for. we all are. The values arising from this are limitless.
blessings
Man, I can trace all my anger and frustration to pursuing these false goals. Just when I think I figure out what I want my life to be about, my goals kind of collapse on themselves. The source of my frustration is that I would swear up and down that I’m on the right track only to realize I’m just following my next half-assed goal on more of whim. My energy eventually fizzles and I have to start the cycle all over again. I guess I’m just kind of terrible at figuring out when my ego is leading me on another wild goose chase and when the Authentic me is saying go get em! He’s a tricky one that EGO! Arghh.
hi Ramone. your ego is leading you on a wild goose chase whenever you are motivated to act our of anger. Think often about the meaning of this. Blessings.
Hi Rob, What does it mean if we have dedicated our lives to goals that are for the benefit and betterment of our families, rather than ourselves first? I wonder what life would be like if I stayed on the bohemian lifestyle I led in 60′s. At the time I thought I had all the answers and could see through that veil of reality. I pursued photography, music and social activism. Eventually I got real, got my Law degree and started a family. My goals of success were driven to support my family. Seems to me this is a Gold Goal, however; being a lawyer isn’t exactly what I would call living my “true nature.” I think that would be something more like dedicating my life to music or photography. Although my “Lawyering Life” stays in line with Social issues I feel strongly about, there is just something missing when it comes to creativity and my ‘true nature.’
Hi George. That something missing that you identify as your ‘creative nature’ is vital to your psychic health. When we neglect our creative nature, no matter how many seeds we sow, weeds are what we reap (in the end). That is what bothers you (you innately know this). blessings
that’s so True Rob
many people waste their lives pursuing wrong goals because they dont understand themselves
thanks for the post
Hi farouk. Folks who don’t know themselves, continuslly ask, “How can I be different.” Unfortunately, the kind of ‘different’ they seek will chain them, not change them. Read that again, and ask, “What does this have to do with me?” We can all learn from this in some domain in our lives (me too!). blessings
Hi Rob,
What a wonderful perspective. What I like so much about this post is it steps aside from the broad insight of setting goals, and focuses in on the small, but important difference on setting the right goals.
I think that this idea revolves around the question of why. I have had superficial goals. None of them would provide enlightenment and all of them were seen through a single, fixed perspective.
But when you get down to the question of why, it hacks at the purpose of our goals and the purpose of ourselves. This is where the beauty of self discovery sets in as it opens doors, whereas narrow minded goals only close them.
My most recent experience has been looking for another job, and having a bit of trouble in doing that. I could look at this as a feeling of inadequacy (which I’ll be honest and say I have) or I could look at this as a pathway to self discovery, and when I do, I have remarkable outcomes. I just finished my interactive video resume, something I probably would have never thought of before…if I was going after the wrong goal.
Great post Rob!
Hi Chris. I love your honesty. We all feel inadequate in some area of our lives. Welcome to the club. The truth makes you a different kind of person. What a wonderful mixture of curiosity and appreciation you will experience if you keep going (which you will; I know that about you). blessings
Hello Rob,
I want gold every day. I currently get gold only-so-often. Every time I read your blog I’m humbled because the message (which I take as a message to me) makes me awaken a little more from the illusion that I’ve created at some point in my life, to the reality that is starting to make its presence into my life. You’ve helped me begin to acquire some gold.
When I’m able to interrupt my usual thoughts, I get this sense of clarity. When I’m able to break up what has become normal thinking I feel more at peace, more confident and like I have nothing to prove. I used to think that the pressure I put on myself because I had to prove everyone wrong – brought out the best in me. Today, I can look back, and sometimes in the mirror and see that it only creates confusion, and uncertainty.
When my usual thoughts are interrupted, it’s like the shackles that were keeping me down mentally and emotionally expand; offering me glimpses of the potential that is head of me.
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Quieting my mind is hard. With so much going on, so many things to do – my mind is always full of stuff, unorganized stuff. I’ve been trying really hard to quiet my mind; but it seems like the focus on trying to quiet it, only creates more noise.
In the very few times that I’ve been fortunate enough to lower the volume of unorganized thought, I’ve seen how different things could be. Tasting this has given me the hunger to discover more about my true nature.
But again, this one is difficult for me. I can’t pin-point why…but I know it is. I don’t give up – I step up to the plate to figure it out. But when it gets tough…standing at the plate does become a bit challenging.
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I think when it’s all said and done Rob, one of the reasons I may struggle at these things is because I approach self-discovery as a part-time job; only giving it clout at my convenience. The learnings here helped me remember what traces of gold that I’ve received…helping me understand the benefit of approaching it as a full-time job. I want gold every day.
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Thank you for the answer to how to achieve this: by stopping the pursuit of false goals. I’ve been guilty as charged for many many years of my life. I’m ready for redemption.
Blessings Rob
Hi Jk. You can bring me to tears with your incredibly sincere transparency. REALLY! You are dwelling in the realm of existence that Emerson dwelled. I have studied him extensively. You are currently being called by some dim memories of a home far beyond the usual routine of life. You are experiencing an eager longing to make yourself worthwhile in a way that helps thousands of folks who feel helpless have breakthroughs. You are letting nothing interfere with what reality is waiting to teach you, so that you will be truly ready when the call to action comes (which is sooner than you think). Thank you my dear friend. blessings
Hi Rob, I’ve talked about some of my “false goals” on here before, and I will tell everyone first hand that they can lead you into a Hell of your own creation. Pursuing cars, clothes, watches and women made me manic, agitated and overall a nervous wreck. By the time I hit rock bottom, I didn’t even know myself. I became so far removed from the happy go-lucky guy my friends and family knew and loved. I scare myself because I still have a taste for the finer things in life. My real goals these days are to learn to appreciate simplicity and clean living. My old habits still call me back when I feel bored and restless. It’s almost like my false goals are battling my fabulous goals. What keeps me on the straight and narrow is thinking about how much better I feel in the morning when I choose my fabulous goals.
Hi Richard. your real goal is clean living. this requires that you thoroughly examine your motives for everything you do. It requires much more than simply walking around with a picture of yourself as being a healthy and good person. That’s what a lot of people do, and then they wonder why they feel so disappointed with their lives don’t turn out as expected. blessings
Such an important distinction for truly finding ourselves. Self-discovery is the most important thing we can take on. I like to think that my false goals have helped me realize what my ultimate goals should be. A long time ago I gave up on aspiring for lots of money. I found I was pursuing some quasi get rich schemes in the name of “spirituality.” Eventually I realized I was two different people. One was chanting peaceful mantras and the other was secretly pining for money – all the while I resented myself for this contradiction. I didn’t know it then, but I was an angry person pretending to be peaceful. I’m dedicated to find a middle way where I can do a job that pays well, yet allows for me to find and express my true nature along the way.
Hi Alicia. I love that you are willing to look at your contradictions. That’s what it takes to jolt oneself into newness. If we are to experience our trueness, we cannot sit back and take the path of least resistance (which you don’t). Blessings
Great article again Rob. I believe that forgiveness is one of the most important things a person can do. When we learn to forgive we can always move forward and learn more about ourselves.
With many persons I believe that the forgiveness needs to start as we reach adulthood and forgive our parents for what we feel they did to us. No parent is perfect and they do the best they know how and we sure don’t come with a manual when we are born.
When we don’t forgive we do stay in the pattern of playing the victim. Also sibling need to forgive there siblings. I have a sister that holds hate in her heart, because she always though our brother was a bully. Will in some ways he was, but we are not that child anymore. This has caused her heartache, but she just doesn’t get it. So also we should forgive our siblings for what we thing they may have done to us when we were kids.
In closing a believe forgiveness does start at a very early age and parents do need to teach children how to forgive, so the love can flow.
Thanks again and I love you challenging my mine rob.
Blessing,
Debbie
Hi Debbie. It is clear that you know the secret of ‘forgiveness’. When we For-Give, we GIVE up our present point of view FOR something new (and then there is nothing to forgive). Can you see the rightness in this practice? YES, you can. You’ve made this wonderfully clear. thank you
Yo robby. Your bringing some serious TRUTH with this. Some people hate on me because they think I’m a show off or whatever. But you know the REAL TRUTH is that I’m just going after my own goals in my own SYTIZYLE and don’t care what anyone else thinks. I don’t care what anyone thinks about my goals because I wouldn’t even KNOW HOW to do anything ELSE. I just keep spewing my soulness everywhere I go. THE only chumps that can’t dig it are too busy wasting their time with lame ass goals. You know those types …. “ALL I want is a house in the suburbs and an OK loooking wife with some dopey kids I can coach in Little League… I don’t even care if theyre All-Stars or not just as long as they have fun because I’m an uncoordinated mess without decent gene in my body to pass on!!!!” I say NO THANK YOU FOOLS GOALS!!!! I’m goin after a slamm’n wife and a penthouse in NEW YORK. Thats a FAB GoAL. WHY? Because its 10000000000% ME! PEOPLE need to stop denying what their really after. Just be real for crissakes!! THATS GOLDER THAN ROLEX. remember: JUST SAY NO TO FOOLS GOALS BABY!!! HOllla Peace outttt!
Hi Magic. If a child is given a jigsaw puzzle and told that if he puts it together rightly, he will see a beautiful picture, he will begin immediately. That’s how I see you – a spiritual child who sees yourself as a jigsaw puzzle; putting yourself together to see a beautiful picture. How’s it working? blessings
This message really touches me, Rob. Whenever I think life is tough and maybe I should not have spent so much time pursuing music I need a good slap in the face. You did it for me this week. If there is one thing I know with any certainty in my life it is that I am blessed to have that one thing in my life I can loose myself in. I think all the false goals I’ve pursued seemed to want me to put music on the back burner. I’ve learned that whatever I’m up to it has to support my music in some way. The moment I realize something I’m doing is detracting is the moment I simply walk on.
Hi Wynton. you are an artist. Just as a shadow comes from blocked light, your only feeling of darkness comes from limiting beliefs that block you from remembering your purpose – TO BE AN ARTIST. blessings
Hi Rob,
This is very well written post.
Self discovery is a never ending process. When we have open mind to learn more , we can really find that we have been able to discover more about ourselves. Of course it is quite possible that we might have hurt someone on the way . We should seek friendship with them and tell them that we debate not them but their views. I have been told that I am very strong minded about somethings but I have always tried to improve my delivery system
while keeping the message intact.
In fact I now use technique of finding a common ground in the midst of argument so that the discussion becomes more amenable. However, I do not hesitate to say “sorry” if my words cause hurt to someone.
So I am moving up this journey, I would say
Thanks for sharing these awesome thoughts
Hi Ashvini. There is a kindness to your comment; it offers a healing feeling. Allow others to be busy doing nothing with their lives, Ashvini, while you continue to attend the higher things that lift all of humanity a notch. thank you.
You got me thinking this week Rob! I remember when I was young it seemed all my goals were right goals and the journey of self-discovery was fun and exciting. Things never seem so clear the older we get. I find it so hard to tell whether the things I want are really what I want or what I’ve been indoctrinated with. Even self-help jargon leaves me skeptical. I think the hardest thing to do in today’s world is truly tune out all the chatter and listen to my true self. Asking to see things differently is a good tip I can use. Thanks
Hi Joan. you bring out a great point. We are indoctrinated to believe that false goals are important. It’s not natural to think that way. Why depend upon the false advice of others when you can have your own certainty. Thank you for that addition. blessings