June 17th, 2011 by rob white
Many people ask me how I became so successful in the domain of money. The first thing I tell them is that ‘the map of how to get to the mountaintop of money is not the mountaintop’. Success never comes by simply studying self-help books and reading inspiring quotes. I’d learned that success has to be encountered, and you don’t encounter success until you learn to face failure. 
When I started out with the dream of getting rich in real estate, I would study books on ‘how to get rich in real estate’; I would look at the mountaintop, and read guidebooks that told me how to get there … but I would stop short. I was afraid to advance, so I began believing that the books were the mountain. I thought if I read enough books, I would just find myself at the top (things would just happen). The longer I believed the books were the mountaintop, the longer I procrastinated climbing the mountain.
It may sound foolish, but millions do it. Millions obsess over ‘how to’ get to where they want to go. Millions read a dozen books that give great tips, yet they are not able to move forward. That’s why many self-help gurus get rich writing books on how to help yourself … millions of folks spend lots of money buying the books, even reading the books, but then they stop short.
Student: Why won’t someone move forward after reading a ‘how to’ book?
Teacher: Underneath it all, is ‘fear of failure’.
Student: What specifically is fear of failure?
Teacher: The very root of ‘fear of failure’ is the 60,000 NO’s that we hear during our childhood rearing years.
There was only one thing that made me fearless when it came to quitting my cushy teaching job and getting out there in the world to get rich in real estate … this one thing was the experience within me that I was part of the ‘living dead’. I was wishing and hoping but not daring to take action for fear of being scolded when I made mistakes. The brakes that stopped me from progressing toward my dreams was fear of hearing, “NO! I told you so!!” I was clinging to old NO’S, and afraid to move into the unknown. I’d created a strange relationship with ‘NO’ for so long, that now to leave that point of view would feel like a divorce. 
I believe this insane relationship with ‘NO’ caused me to be one of the ‘living dead’. The ‘living dead’ are those who are alive, but don’t feel alive. I know it well. We become robots, living mechanical existences – doing today what we did yesterday, with a little twist to it – hoping the twist will make a difference. This one idea – “I am part of the living dead” – was what it took to motivate me to have a breakthrough. Understanding the truth, alone, has never betrayed me (and it didn’t in this case).
The only way I could overcome my fear of failure was to accept that I was flexible and intelligent enough to fail my way to success. The moment I agreed to accept this fact, creative energy was released within me. I was fearless and free!
Student: How long does it take to accept the fact that we are intelligent and flexible enough to fail our way to success?
Teacher: It takes but an instant to accept this fact … how long you want to take to lead up to that instant is entirely up to you.
The mountain of making millions was still in front of me, but my mind was no longer full of maps made by different explorers. Things were changing. I was changing. The rigid mind was dead. New sharpness and intensity overcame my old, dull ways. To climb the mountain to millions was now a totally different matter than to dream about it and read books on how to do it while simmering in ‘fear of failure’. Where I couldn’t move an inch, I was now able to move a mile.
The courage to face my fear of ‘NO’ developed quickly by the persistent practice of facing my fear of ‘NO’. True confidence comes from self-insights … not from reading self-help books. I am not putting down self-help books; I am suggesting that you put first things first, and lifting yourself up must come first. Then self-help books can help you. If you do not lift yourself up first – self-help books cannot help you.
This conversation can be translated into any domain of life – how to create harmonious relationships, how to help create world peace, how to start your own business or your own family, how to be healthy. Don’t let the money thing turn you off. Turn within and ask, “What does this have to do with me and my present aspirations and dreams?”
Please let us know your thoughts. Please offer examples of how you’ve put down maps and actually taken up walking the trail to the summit of success. We love your insights and comments.
blessings
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Thank you for being honest, and telling us that you were afraid to fail, Rob. So many successful people pretend they don’t have this fear, and then people like me think we are inferior in some way. I like your moxie.
hi Steve. I used to think that successful people had something I didn’t. Seeking the truth, which knows what is right and good, is what lead me out of this false jungle of thoughts. blessings
failure is the only time i learn anything.
Hi David. What is often called worship or meditation, is often nothing more than evasion of responsibility for learning from our failures. Meditate on that. I believe it has something in it for you. thank you for responding. blessings
Lately I have been looking at my life to answer the question of what I am missing.(the tragic flaw) Certainly I have had many amazing opportunities so what happened? I wasn’t ready, good enough, trained enough,…maybe but really, I disqualified myself from the winners circle over and over again, afraid to make a mistake …. My conclusion, in reviewing my missed opportunities is that I need to be bold. Take a risk, make a mistake, be flat out wrong, silly, confused and be willing to learn and laugh at myself when the world exposes its truths to me. The meek shall inherit the earth…maybe after the bold are done with it. Thanks for sharing your story and bringing attention to these seemingly simple points that are so key to change and growth.
Hello sylvia. I am glad to hear from you. INDEED, the meek do inherit the earth. The meek are the sincere seekers of truth (they are not so bold as to think they ‘know it all’). When I was egocentric, I was bold; I was a ‘NO it all’ …. I would say “NO” to all that did not agree with me. I was so busy feeling sorry for myself for failing that I would not let the lessons in. I still have to watch that. I am glad I could help you understand a little better how I succeeded in the money domain. I plan to share more of myself in future blogs. blessings
Ohhh… so thats how you did it. I knew I was missing something!
I get sucked into reading all the different blogs. Once I started coming here I found out I could keep on going further and further down the rabbit hole. I started driving my wife nuts! She was convinced I was up to NO GOOD. She was kind of right (but not in the way most people think). Instead of actually using all this knowledge I was just reading more and more. Instead of spending time with my kids after dinner I was reading about “10 tips to be the Best Dad Ever.” Sometimes taking action is easier than we think. In my case all it meant was to be present for my family.
I like that, Roger: as you were studying up, so you could succeed, you were scrambling down the rabbit hole (hiding from life). That is a familiar pattern; I know it well. blessings
Hi Rob,
This is truly an inspiring article. The fear of failure is so insidious. We keep on telling ourselves we are improving and moving forward by reading self-helps books. But if we do nothing but read, if we do not apply that knowledge and make it our own, it basically goes nowhere.
I know how it felt like to be part of the living dead. I too was afraid of failure and had lived out my earlier years hearing the words “no” drilled into my head repeatedly. These words eventually formed a ceiling that limited what I dared to achieve.
Overcoming our fear of failure does not happen overnight. It is important to proceed step by step, bit by bit so that we do not get overwhelmed. Trying to do too much at once is not prudent. We could start small by looking back on the skills that we have and take for granted. How did we learn them? How did we manage failure during the learning process. By realizing that failure is a natural part of success, we can slowly apply this to all areas of life. In time, when we face failure, we will just note what we need to learn and adapt as needed.
Thank you for sharing this lovely article!
Irving the Vizier
Hi Irving. I like your response. It shows wisdom (which comes from experience). When we know what is right for our lives (which you do), we are not burdened with false concerns over looking good and getting approval. That’s a big one. thank you.
I’m not exactly a big reader but I spend way too much time in my head. I come up with all sorts of fantastic ideas that never get off the ground. My mind takes me all over the place and I get super excited but something happens where the ideas just fade away. I don’t get how those ideas can get me so excited one minute and then they are gone like an hour later. I think I have to map out my ideas. At least if I put them in writing I can kind of follow the trail. Thanks for info – I think I just came up with a good plan!
Hi Kara. We all come up with great ideas (great schemes) in our head that never get off the ground. The trick is to get one or two of them off the ground, and you begin soaring. Thank you
Rob,
Amen!
I can’t add a thing here. There comes a point when our curiosity and investigation into a topic becomes exactly as you say – procrastination.
Hi Angela. you did add something of value to this blog – YOU! It is always fun to hear from you. Yes. sometimes we use curiosity as an excuse to procrastinate. I never thought of it like that before. I like that. The great and glorious center of your heart will burst wide open when you become completely aware of yourself in action, Angela. That is what we all yearn for. Because then the vibration of LOVE guides us to do the right stuff. What a wonderful world it becomes. blessings
Hi Rob, this one really has me thinking now. All my life I’ve had no problem creating “harmonious relationships.” I would say that is my strongest asset. However, growing my business has always eluded me. I see that I have no fear when it comes to meeting people, talking and socializing etc. I used to think I was a fearless business woman… I’m not so sure these days. To this day I still hear that nattering nabobs of negativity who suggest I can’t do it. I think that is the difference. I’m expected to be a social butterfly, but business woman? No no no! I’m doing OK though, I just want to keep getting better.
Hi Carol Anne. You are noticing where you do well in some domains of existence, and less well in others. Ah, the wonderful feeling of balance. It is exquisite – nothing like it. The universe is in perfect balance – why not me? When the truth is allowed to shine within, we find ourselves shining in the world out there. blessings
Rob,
This is excellent!! As I read this – I find myself also examining my own life. And I know there are moments where I’ve limited myself – for fear of failure (and the many things that can mean).
I can also think of moments where I’ve put myself out there – and failed – and (hmmm…how about that) survived…and even found ways to thrive! That’s a great reminder for me, today – as I move forward – that failure is a perception that I can sometimes let hold me back…
Thank you.
Hi lance. Thank you for bringing your life to the conversation. When we intellectualize, it is talking about the menu, but not getting in the kitchen and cooking the meal. I want to cook the meal, and then enjoy sharing it with others. the first mission of spirit is to get out out there in the world and make a ton of learning mistakes. That’s how we learned to walk and talk, read and write. why stop there … right, Lance? blessings
Hey Rob, I just don’t know how some people get over that hump while most seem to languish by the wayside. I’ve only read a few Self-Help books… seems to me they all the say the same thing… Buddah is my man… I think he got it right on. That being said I have lots of desires and ambitions, but its almost like I’m not driven. You were driven. I need to know how to get fired up. Sometimes I get all RAH RAH RAH DO IT DO IT…. then I just relax and think, well I’m happy just the way I am. I don’t know if thats a cop out or what. My main aim is to be peaceful. I’m darn successful at that, if I do say so myself!
Hi lance. aiming to be peaceful is a fabulous aim. Mahatma Gandhi was peaceful – and yet, look at all the other great stuff he did with his life. The indescribable of the heart spreads to every cell of our body when we aim to be peaceful and aim to make a difference in the world. It is ecstasy. Do you know the origin of the word ‘ecstasy’? It means to ‘break out’ (like an eagle breaks out of its shell and soars to the mountaintop). YES, that’s it! blessings
Hi Rob, Yeah I am definitely one who has read them all. I always feel like I’m going to miss the one tip that is going to really click. I even read a ton of biographies of successful musicians I like looking for some kind of insight into how they did it. Then I realized they don’t really know how they did it. I’m done with reading more self-help books. What I’ve learned from other musicians is that there no ONE way to do anything. That has helped me a ton. I think we have to realize that our own unique set of circumstances and beliefs are perfect for us. It is up to us to find our own way.
Hi John. Good teachings supply one with the confidence that there is a higher way within that will guide us. Indeed, self-help book cannot have all the answers for everyone. Everything begins to go right when we realize that the best self-help comes from deep within (our intuition). blessings
I think our life is that map – we have to abandon fear and start a journey to ourselves often through uncharted and unexplored inner territory Rob. We have to be the trailblazer in our own existence with our intuition and curiousness as our guides. I’m leaving my home town of over 40 years next month not to move to a new location but to unearth a new me – scary, but something inside is powering the action to discover all I can accomplish on Earth. And sometimes that’s all that matters – when we answer to our potential, it just has to materialise into life.
Hi John. ‘Taking a journey to oneself’. That is a great concept. Catch yourself wandering away from yourself, John, and leap back on path. I like your phraseology – ‘unearthing a new you’. You were ‘on’ when you wrote this comment, John. Thank you.
Hi Rob,
You’ve made such a great point here. I have a library of books in three countries. I love to research things and when I become interested in something, I immerse myself in the subject fully for a while, drinking everything in. But there comes a time when you have to either sh*t or get off the pot. If we don’t actually apply everything we’ve learned, what good is it?
I’ve succeeded at a lot of things in my life. But each one of those successes came on the 100th try. I fell flat on my face the first 99 times. It’s not that I’m not afraid of failure. I totally am. It’s just that I’ve learned that I can get up, dusty myself off and keep going. And I’m stubborn. Falling down makes me want it all the more.
Thanks for another wonderful post.
Hugs,
Melody
Hi Melody. The solution to succeeding is a secret as long as we buy dreams rather than reality. On a 100th try at something, we are buying reality. Nice tip. thank you
Hi Rob, I’m getting good at facing my No’s. I think I’m on the verge of a breakthrough. I used to be scared to be shot down by girls. But after facing a few (or actually a ton) of rejections I stopped caring. It’s amazing. I used to be a nervous wreck all night worrying about saying something to a girl I had my eye on. I’d get so worked up and wait till the end of the night when every other D-bag was hitting on her. Now I just go right in. I’ve made a game out of it and think it is kind of funny now. I haven’t made a big score yet, but I am definitely facing my NO’s. I’m done with reading more pick up books. I think the secret is to just feel confident and get in there. duh.
Hi Alan. New safety begins the moment you face your NO’s, and you suspect that you are much bigger than them. that is what you are doing. Bravo. blessings
Hi Rob,
Excellent post as usual. I believe many people fail to get what want in life because they don’t apply what they learn from the self-help books that they read. Fear, procrastination, lack of enthusiasm, lack of motivation, among other aspects keep them where they are.
I was one of those people as well. I would read various books on personal development and really get motivated to start “conquering the world,” but after a few days, or a week, I would go back to my old habits and ways. It wasn’t until I started “applying what I learn from those self-help book” to my life.
This realization came to me after I asked my uncle, who is very successful in many life domains including money and career, “How did you become successful in life?” He said, “I apply what I learn from the self-help books to my life.” I took time to ponder this statement and really reflect on what he said. Then, I decided to do the same, apply what I learn to my life. By applying, this means facing my fears, taking inspired action, working on myself internally, focusing on what I want in life instead of what I don’t want, live in the now and plan for my future, believe in myself, have faith, etc…) In less than 2 years, my life changed dramatically. Now, I am also applying what I learn to my “money domain” and started seeing positive signs as well.
I really believe Rob if people apply what they read, their lives would change dramatically in a short time. Thanks for sharing my friend, great post (I love it when you talk about money)
Hi Dia. I love it when you love it when I talk about money! (a little Zen, there). Yes, Dia …. “What does this have to do with me” is a great question when reading a self-help book … and then apply it to one’s life. I like it. We can vainly grasp illusion, or we can let truth support us … apply good tips for self-help, and truth supports us. blessings
Bravo Rob,
This was writing mastery as it challenged me to stop reading and start doing. I have been a victim of those NO’s for well to long hoping for something I hadn’t worked to obtain.
“The smallest good deed is better than the grandest good intention.”
Action is always better than intent and so far I have a lot of intent and not a lot of action. I am screaming YES! in the faces of my NO’s! Thanks Rob I needed to read this.
Hi Frank. I like your tip about a small deed will get a lot more done than a grand intention. The sooner we stop playing games with the truth, the sooner we get what we want. You spoke a truth in the above statement. Thank you
Hi Rob,
It is funny because there are some areas of my life where I am so confident and know that when I set a goal, I will achieve it (like running) and then there are other areas like blogging) where I am sometimes not so sure. I think that if you have had evidence of success, it makes it easier to believe that you can do it. Thanks for sharing this article. It was timely.
Hi lisa. When we have evidence of being able to succeed, it is easier to succeed again in the same domain. The trick is to succeed in an entirely new domain with absolutely no evidence (like you did as a small child when you learned to walk, then talk, then read, then write)> How’d you do that? The needed light will shine at the exact right moment when we are willing to admit the truth – WE ARE BEINGS WITH UNLIMITED POTENTIAL. You too, right Lisa? I like your style. blessings
Hi Rob, this is great advice. So many people just get paralyzed about finding the right way to do things. My biggest pet peeve is with timid people who just tiptoe around what they want to do. I have no patience for it. I may come off on the gruff side, but I always tell people to start somewhere. I’ve always told my daughters, “you have to do something, even if it is wrong.” Thats what worked for me. And yes, a lot of the time you will be wrong. But you will get it right soon enough.
Hi Georgie. tip-toeing doesn’t work when we intend to succeed, does it. We must dare to boldly move into our miss-takes (so that we can learn from them and do a successful re-take). A right response to a failure is to relax and let it tell us what we need to learn so we may succeed. blessings
I don’t think that everything should be about money. I’m really focused on enjoying the journey and making sure I don’t miss a minute of it. To me, being awake and aware IS the mountain top. Whenever we are mindful we are already on top of the mountain. When we are suffering in our private nightmares it is because we are not mindful. Having more money does not help me become more mindful – the best things in life are free. Whats the difference whether I have money or not?
Hi Alicia. Everything should not be about money. it’s just that it’s easy to explain sucess in the domain of money, because money can be such an easy measure to see how we did. I love peace of mind more than money. I love harmonious relationships more than money. I love ‘love’ much much more than money. Proceed from the human view to cosmic vision (where money exists not), and the confusing becomes clear. I love this advice. Ram Dass shared it with me years ago. blessings
I have been working on my fears, one being of failure, in layers. The more I am able to let my fears go, the more freedom I enjoy. I have discovered that reading self-help books can provide inspiration but ultimately it is taking action that helps me overcome my blocks.
I find it interesting that you were once a teacher. You are obviously blessed with the great gift of teaching and inspiring us all! Thanks for being a great model! As always, an excellent post – one that is meant to be shared and tweeted.
Hi Evelyn. A right response to a higher truth is to listen easy and let it settle in. You have an easy way of writing that is fun to listen to. I let it settle in. I like the good you do for those around you. Thank you.
Hi Rob,
I ‘so much’ look forward to reading your blog almost every night in bed (at first my hubby was a bit dubious about tweeter and facebook, but explained the benefits for me), that when I check my tweets I scram through looking for your tweet and ignoring the rest. You speak the truth and it always hit’s home every time.
Love the gift you have for what you do and more so sharing it, very powerful, thank you.
The moment I read the first paragraph I so resonant with what you said ‘Success never comes by simply studying self-help books and reading inspiring quotes’, and laughed at myself, then I read on to the next paragraph that made it even more so, ‘I was afraid to advance, so I began believing that the books were the mountain. I thought if I read enough books, I would just find myself at the top (things would just happen).
Action (doing) speaks louder than words (reading), it’s not enough to just keep reading self help stuff or blogs but doing is where the action is.
The whole blog just represents me to the T, it’s like you are talking to me. Brings tears to my eye’s, not sure what those tears are for?
I did a job once and the night before, I didn’t sleep a wink because I felt incapable of achieving it to perfection, but when I did do the job, the adrenalin was working so much in my favor and the resounding comments I got for a job so well done, boosted my confidence to much high, if only I could think that all the time (I am capable and confident in what I do and love it), I would be long way away from where I am now.
I guess the law of attraction is working, as my zeal to want to be successful brings me to you.
As you said, so shall it be.
Thank you thank you
Tinu
Hi Tinu. Wow, you shared from your soul about your own growth in the domain of action. Higher lessons are always offered to those who no longer protect their vanity. Your humbleness is a gift to the world. ‘The meek shall inherit the earth’ means that those who are willing to be wrong so they can learn how to do it right – are those who win in in life. That’s you, isn’t it Tinu. blessings
Hi Rob,
First of all, this is my first time on your blog and it’s fantastic! I wish I would have found it sooner
I can totally resonate with this post. I have had this same epiphany recently. This is where the Law of Attraction breaks down for most people. They imagine the life they want, but THEY aren’t in that life! It’s like watching a movie about something you enjoy, you don’t step out of the theater and immediately attract whatever was on the screen.
The difference is being able to inherently understand and expect that right NOW you are living your dreams. In 5 minutes, you’ll be getting up and moving into your dream house, or going on a date with your dream girl/guy, or cashing your $1 million check. That is totally different, isn’t it?
Like you said, that mindset brings a whole new sense of “sharpness and intensity.” If you’re honest, it brings out fear as well. But the difference is, now the fear is on the surface and it can be dealt with, it is no longer hiding under the illusion of ‘tomorrow.’
Hi Andrew. you are a philosopher, and a real good one. I love how you write. There is a part in everyone that is not his usual nature, and those who let this part express in the world – win in the world. I can see that you allow this part of you to express in the world. Thank you for joining us. blessings
So true, Rob. All my greatest successes have had little to do with reading the right books. I just came out “guns a blazing” and made a bunch of mistakes along the way. I was young and full of bravado and didn’t really care. I was too dumb to know or care if I was defying the odds. Now, In fact, reading self-help books tends to throw me into a loop. I end up thinking too much and get a little depressed. Inner work is harder because there are no clear goals. I’m not after any new material goals but really I just want to be happy.
” I’d learned that success has to be encountered, and you don’t encounter success until you learn to face failure.’
This quote is brilliant. The fruits of success are in the seeds of Failure. And the more we fail the faster we grow. Just remember to learn from them!
Hi Rob. Yes indeed, it is the ongoing plight of Man that we just don’t trust ourselves. Other perspectives are great. Reading is great because we can live a lifetime between the two covers. However; that does not make it our life. We have to take what we like and make it part of our character. Having volition to choose what works for me and only me is what makes life so interesting. I’ve never cared much about getting rich, my main goal has been to be rich in free time and sunny days – and I have spent them lavishly.
YES, it seems the plight of mankind is to dare trust himself, Salty. Victory now is a result of self-trust … otherwise we fight the devil of insecurity for a lifetime. Thank you for you personal touch when commenting. blessings
Hi Rob,
I’m very late to this party! I see two interesting points here – the fear of hearing NO and the mountain of books (what are you doing looking in my library!) Actually, I don’t buy the books, I read too many of them to spend money on them!
I want to point out the line I love the most here: “I was flexible and intelligent enough to fail my way to success.”
That seems to sum it up! Recently I made a decision to publish my first book to Kindle. Directly. Myself. When I told my 82 year old Dad, braced to defend my decision to self-publish, I was surprised at how he took it. One thing he said was,
get it out there and fail fast!
I should have known. He’s been a heck of a businessman since he was fourteen years old!
So I’m “getting it out there” in more ways than one! I’m in my second major revision and it’s turning out much different than I’d planned. It will require every bit of courage I have to do this, and then some! But I’m doing it!
We talk about taking the leap. You could say I’ll be taking this leap off that mountain of books and letting the chips fall where they may. There’s no more waiting, no more fear holding me back. It’s time and I’m here. Look out world!
LOL
Look what your article did to me Rob!
Lori
Hi Lori. I love your tip: get out there and fail fast (get it over with so you can get on to winning at life). Be not a dazed soldier, fighting in a jungle, not knowing the war was over years ago. Thank you thank you
Hello Rob,
These days, each blog post I read of yours, I feel that it’s directed at me. I get the same thing in church from time to time…but always here. One time I went back up to look at the Nick’s art to see if he drew up a sketch of me (seriously). I know I’m not the point of focus – but I take your writing that way….I take it as if it’s a personal note to me. I take it very personally (not in offense, but in a good way). So thank for sharing your ability to write in a tone that allows me to see your “generalized” message as direct message to me. I’m sure others feel the same way…but still – this post is mine. And for this reason, I opt to read multiple times. Not because I have troubles with comprehension – but I because my way of thought is so elementary compared to yours, that I simply can’t consume it all in one sitting. If I didn’t take it personally I could. But I take it very personal, so I want to make sure that this post (and others) that I feel are directed towards me, are not simply “scanned”, but thoroughly read, so that I can take away as much as I possibly can.
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As I read this Rob, I really feel like my understanding of this topic advanced. I used to deny fear. I knew it was there, but I acted as if it wasn’t. Fear actually controlled me, because I wouldn’t do anything about it. So, by default fear won. I speak in past tense here not because I no longer harbor fear because I do… but because I now realize and recognize what it is. Somehow, someway, realizing and accepting that fear sits within me gives me an element of power. At least I feel like it. Simply saying to myself “I have no fear” did/does absolutely nothing. Saying something without believing it doesn’t play a trick on my mind…it makes me look like a fool when I say in the mirror: I have no fear – thinking somehow that fear will evaporate.
You left a comment on my blog where you mentioned more than once: “I NEVER PROTECT MYSELF AGAINST FAILURE”. I actually wrote that down in an effort to remember it. It resonated because that’s what I had been doing – all of my life. And what a crock because all of that effort, and it never ever worked. It simply limited me. So now I vow to never protect myself against t failure. I know that this isn’t the end all for me, I still have overcoming to do, but boy do I feel enlightened from the expansion of my understanding.
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I was protecting myself by denying it. Denying it doesn’t offer any benefit – it doesn’t offer me, at least, the ability to overcome. But now that I admit to the fact that I am shackled at times by fear…which inspires me to do something about it and remove the shackles. I’m speaking in circles here because of excitement and because this is simply a point that’s hard to convey – it’s more of a feeling deep within than an intellectual spark, so please forgive my jumbled and all over the place comment Rob.
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“True confidence comes from self-insights … not from reading self-help books.” Sometimes Rob, when I read powerful statements like this, I get a little get angry. “Why?” I ask myself: “…has it taken me so long to just now be in witness of these life changing moments”. I’m not claiming to be on your level, no sir, but I will tell you that that statement is simple and consumable and I’m getting it.
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My apology for the lengthy comment. But as you know about me, when I feel it, I spill it. One year ago – I didn’t have the mental framework or the heart to comprehend this type of deep content…so I just feel pretty liberated and excited – and ready for the mission that lays ahead as I climb this mountain. I will be a millionaire one day Rob. And I thank you for allowing me to recognize that goal, and for these very writings, which I believe are serving as stepping stones to my arrival into 7 figures. And it’s not just about the money domain – I want to conquer them all.
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I feel like saying thanks isn’t even enough…. But I don’t know what else to say.
Thank you Rob!
Blessings
Hi Jk. you went to town on this one. I knew Tony Robbins personally for a few years, and his biggest secret to success was this: everything he read, he took personally. He always asked, “what does this have to do with me?” By asking this, he gleaned every lesson he could from every self-help book and seminar he took. The trick is to take it personally while being the objective observer of the lessons being offered. YES, we can be two things at once!
The satan inside of you is already defeated, Jk. Satan is nothing other than the role of ‘NO-it-all’ that we all take on early in our lives. We gather a vast collection of limiting opinions, and learn to say “NO” to anything that screams “HOGWASH’ to our thoughts of lack and limit. you defeated satan when you began realizing the astounding truth about your awesome potential by rising above echoing NO’s and dwelling in the spiritual now. You live in the spiritual now when you are no longer influenced by someone nay-saying comments of others. you cannot be broken, Jk. You are living in the spiritual nature, which is free to live life victoriously. Never, never, never protect yourself against failure, my friend; understanding this wisdom will never fail you. blessings
YEahhh right on SON! I feel ya on this one ROB-O. It’s like when I go to ROCK out with my Boys and they spend the whole night working up the stones to try to hook up with a chick. I just go right in when I see something I’m after. I tell them all the time just GO!!!! And they always say OH I’m not TALL dark and HANDSOME like YOU! I Dont have a shot!!! HAHHAHAH. IT’s so LAME! THey’d rather stand at the bar instead making stuff happen. YOu know that aint my style ROBBY!! I’ve never read a book on how to HOOK UP – BUt I do it ALL THE TIME. SElf-Help books are LAME TOO. Most of them are for peeps who are too scared to try and want to feel good about being AVERAGE! Once I understand the GAmE I get on the field. I’m understanding the $$$ game these days and I’m going to BLOWWING UP soon! I’ve read enough and NOW it is time to make some serious $$$$$$. Thats why your the MAN, rob – THats all you did!
Hi magic marc. Is it possible to hear something new without emptying the contents of one’s mind? No, it isn’t. In order for me to hear you, I need to empty the contents of my mind because you think so differently from me. I love what you share when I am listening to you without listening to my preconceived point of view. Thank you
Rob,
Failures and mistakes are stepping stones to finally achieving success for many. For those who achieve success and money without making mistake are lucky but may lack wisdom to survive tough time. The best thing I have found is to keep doing what one has started and not give up in middle. Keep going.
Always motivated to read here as always.
Preeti
Hello Preeti. You are a pretty flower (always blossoming in new ways for me). A cosmic castle cannot be built with dark thoughts. You build cosmic castles. thank you.
hmmmm… feeling like being the living dead says it perfectly to me. When I think about how much of my life I’ve been going through the motions is when I get resentful and angry all over again. I actually think it is the root of all my rage. It’s just frustration for not making things happen. It is fear of failure that keeps me timid, instead of risking failure I just get loud and braggadocios. I’m learning to be humble these days and things are starting to change.
Hi Ramone. Bad new is good news when we accept it and intend to change things. Knowing when you are ‘one of the living dead’ is good news – now you can hold yourself responsible for experiencing ‘aliveness’! blessings
Oh yeah. Thats the music and arts biz all over… we must constantly face those “NO’s”. The great poet Lawrence Ferlenghetti called it “Constantly Risking Absurdity.” We have to get out there and say what we have to say and not give a damn if anybody else “gets it” or not. In fact, I’m more dubious of my artistic success than I am of my failures. Whenever I receive praise part of me feels like it is because I fell in line with the main stream. Failure is the sine qua non of artistic expression… one cannot exist with out the other in my opinion
Hi Wynton. “Constantly risking absurdity.” I love that. thank you for that. Do that which may show up as absurd, Wynton, because it is right (not for the reward), and it will right! blessings
I’m absolutely speechless. The words of this blog have so rightly defined my life until this point. That’s right… until this moment in time…I now vow to take action on all of the self-help books, blogs, biogragraphies, etc. You are absolutely amazing and gifted in instilling and injecting yourself in the lives of others. Today is my first day on your blog and I am utterly amazed but not surprized because I followed your commment from another amazing person…Melody Fletcher.
I feel such a kindred spirit to your words. I feel a light bulb or better a lightening bolt of inspiration flowing through my veins. I will end this comment so that I may begin to take action.
Please continue doing what you do….see you on your next blog.
Kim
Hi Kim. I love your energy, your enthusiasm, your vitality, your unique sense of quickening. You are here on this planet to make a difference, and it shows! Observe yourself with the intention of seeing yourself as you really are, Kim (not as you once imagined you were after hearing 60,000 NO’s between age two and six), and the sky’s the limit for you! I like your style! Thank you