February 27th, 2011 by rob white
Might I toss a couple of questions your way?
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- Is it possible that the mood of infinite intelligence is always LOVE? (my instant response is ‘yes’, though the world-voice screams ‘NO’.)
- If I allow Universal Mind to express through me, without my ego’s interference, would it always be in LOVING ways? (my instant response is ‘YES’, though Sigmund Freud’s would point to the ID and say ‘NO’).
- Does nature wrought everything by means of LOVE? (my gut says ‘YES’, but the world-voice points to destructive tornadoes, and says, ‘NO’.)
- Is it possible that I am a distribution center, with a storehouse chuck full of love? (YES, I love that metaphor, but I don’t always live it … no siree!)
- Is joy and harmony always the experience if love is the center of attention? What about so many broken marriages? Oh, I see: ‘love as the center of attention’ is key!
OKAY THEN … if LOVE is truly the answer to all things, then what goes on with humanity?
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- Is the harsh word ‘NO’ (and scolding opinions that encourage harsh NO’s), the cause of 99% of the troubles in the world today?
- Does ‘NO’ prevail with great might because we refuse to command our scolding opinions to lie still?
- Is it challenging to live as a loving human being because of the following bad habit: we take more interest in other people’s faults than their blessings … we learn to sneak around behind people’s backs catching them doing things wrong rather than catching them doing things right?
- Is life tough because most folks subscribe to W.O.E.?
(What On Earth consciousness, taking on the role of helpless victim and adopting a blame mentality.) - Would life be nearly so tough if everyone accepted the natural W.O.W state of being that accompanies us at birth?
(Wonderful Obsession Winning … at the game of life, with love as the trump card.)
WHAT ABOUT ME?
If I kept my attention only on loving possibilities:
- I would forget all untruths that have me living cautious (daring not to dance as though no one is watching.)
- I would accept everyone as they are – I would not think it my job to change anything about anyone.
- I would refuse to allow petty annoyances to get under my skin; I would not think it my duty to react from thoughts of badness (thoughts of badness is madness!) … I would learn to chuckle more and go on my way when life was testing me.
WHAT ABOUT YOU?
- What if you never harshly judged your family, friends, neighbors, colleagues or even strangers? What if when a harsh judgment popped in your head, you made it sit still? See how your confidence is already stronger!
- What would your life be like if you kept your attention on loving possibilities? What perfect action would you take if you really trusted that love is the only strategy that can bless and prosper you and everyone else in your world?
Be aware of yourself as a loving, creative person, and you suddenly find ways and means to do all of this. With whom would you begin your new practice?
WHAT ABOUT EVERYONE?
- What if everyone considered LOVE to be their true friend?
- What if no one any longer allowed unnecessary nervousness (accompanying old echoing NO’s) to make choices for them?
How would life be different on planet earth if everyone lived this way?
ONE LAST THING:
Any ideas you hold about LOVE is not LOVE … to really KNOW LOVE, you must go out into the world and express LOVE (right here, right now). Dare to allow LOVE to guide you beyond your present ways of conducting business in life.
Thank you for any comments, insights and examples of your own that you may be willing to share on this topic ………. LOVE, rob
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You don’t usually get into the ‘love thing’, rob, but I like your practical approach to the matter. There are too many romanitcized versions of love, which loses the real healthy point that you are making here. I still wrestle with ‘love’ because I was brought up thinking it has to do with finding the perfect soulmate and having a lifetime of great sex.
What a relief to discover we need not do all those things the world will insist must be done to find love (like search endlessly for our soul mate or be an incredible ‘lover’ in bed! blessings
I really enjoyed this Rob.
Lately I’ve been listening to some speaches by Brene Brown who studies vulnerability. It turns out, that the ability to allow ourselves to be vulnerable is key to having connection, (love?). However, we have a culture that teaches us that vulnerability = weakness. That’s a hell of a “no”.
Choosing love means choosing vulnerability. Tough one, but you’re right. We’d all be better off!
YES, be audacious about being vulnerable, Jenny Ann, and being vulnerable isn’t such a big deal … YES, YES, YES! blessing
Boy I need to practice this at work this week. I’ve been easily agitated with co-workers lately. I know its not them but something I have to fix in my attitude and this is the right prescription. I already know how I can practice it too. This one guy always microwaves pungent smelling food (I think it’s curry… blech!). It’s not worth getting angry about (thats the madness). I definitely want to learn how to “chuckle” about these little tests. I tend to think I need to change people but thats just too much work. I can already see how much more free and light I would feel if I could let go of that habit and just give out love as much as I can.
Learn to love the pungent smell of microwave food, Kara, and your nose becomes much happier! It’s all an opinion, isn’t it. Folks in some parts of the world love smells that we are taught to consider awful. Hmmm. blessings
Hi Rob.
The word “no” is pretty harsh. I try not to say it directly too often. At the same time, some people don’t like when I am indirect, so I try to say “no” or “yes” to those folks as much as possible. I think that once you get into somewhat of a routine, you don’t have to say “yes” and “no” as often because people know what you are interested in and what you don’t do.
Not judging people is a tough one, but it opens up doors. It is very easy to judge others based on appearance, speech, or qualities, but we usually regret any quick judgments that we make. How accurate can our guess be about a person we have known for only a short period? It can’t be that accurate, or it would be the case that people are very simple, which they are not.
Your comments about love do ring true. With love, others can sense a goodness about us that they want to pass on. When there is no love, others want to avoid us or what we are doing, because it gives off a negative vibe. We should always add some love into what we are doing. It makes a difference.
You took a moment to respond to this blog, Armen … it shows in your comment. NICE. You wrote from heartfelt love rather than cold intellectual dissertation. Again, it shows! NICE. Thank you
In a pardoxical way Rob discovering love and it’s magical power has been through first experiencing what it’s not. It’s Ying and Yang – one exists because the other does. The art within the self is never to let the non-loving side dominate as in the story of the Cherokee Elder who told his young grandson Brave he had 2 wolves within him – one angry, murderous, and savage, the other beautiful, good and humble and how there was always a fight between them. When asked by the child which one would win the battle he replied, “Whichever one I feed”. So with love. Feed the heart, satisfy the love. Many blessings on you Rob.
HEY, NICE, John. I love your insight into the nature of love. To rescue oneself from hate, one must first stop feeding the ‘ID’ (said Freud). Thank you
I just LOVE this topic!
It is so true we can’t just have ideas or talk about love. Going into the world and expressing it is the only way to understand it. I’m printing this and keeping it taped up by my mirror and train my mind to stay focused on Loving possibilities. There are so many opportunities throughout the day to just practice small acts of acceptance. Love isn’t some big abstract idea, real love is simple and easy.
Right on, Carol Anne …. LOVE is not an abstraction; it’s a practical demonstration! NICE. Thank you
Hi Rob,
This is a big one. As they say “Love makes the world go around.” The opposite of love is hate. Knowing this if you hate it only hurts the one that hates. If you love you are loved more because you see the positive side of people and the world. Hate is seeing the negative side of people and the world. The choice is yours, do you want to spread love or hate.
If you really want to study love Jesus is the best example of pure love. (Just had to throw that one in) Anyway if you want to feel the difference take a day and concentrate on love and loving the people you come in contact that day. The next day take the people you come in contract with and find there faults and see how you feel that day. Then choice how you want to feel about people and the world. In a positive loving way or hating and negative way.
For myself yes, I do have moments where I have to work a little harder on this, but I find that when you can feel compassion can make a big difference.
Thanks for listening to my thought on Love. And Rob another great post. Thank you
Debbie
I love your take on LOVE, Debbie (and never feel that you have to apologize for bringing Jesus into the conversation). Indeed, ‘appreciate’ on day one, and find things wrong on day two: you will experience Love and then hate. If it is to be, it is up to me! Thank you.
> the world-voice points to destructive tornadoes
I like your balance of gut and world-voice.
It’s yet another reminder of balancing our inner-wisdom with the reality we shape for ourselves and others on a daily basis.
Folks are easily confused when they lose sight of their inner wisdom, J.D. It is our own careless use of mind that allows useless notions to take center stage in our field of consciousness. These blogs are a wake-up call for those who choose growth and expansion over the same ole comfort zone (which is really a dead zone).
Thank you for your thoughtful insights. blessings
Hello Rob! I’ve come to learn (and still learning) the power of love. It has the ability to guide us in the right direction with no map, in the dark with no light, covering any terrain and slowing for no obstacle. We’re at our best when love is thriving through us and we’re displaying it to the world.
Taking it back to my college days, before I met my wife – my friends enjoyed hanging out with me because our uninspired minds fed off of each others lacking in the love category. Once I met my wife, my attitude changed – I was more happy, more vibrant and much more vocal about my emotions…and that threw my old friends off. They thought Courtney had put me under a spell and changed me. The misery we once had in common had become imbalanced.
This taught me an important lesson. Love is as contagious as misery…and a much better side of the spectrum to be on. This post was truly unique. Each question made me reflect and think…and kind of write a mental piece of my own blog post.
Thank you for the experience Rob.
Harmony in human relations, Jk, resides in knowing how human beings think. When you know the richness of someone’s thought-process, you are able to acknowledge and appreciate what they offer. When you notice scarcity in the way someone thinks, it is time to consider moving on (we are not here to change them – unless they ask for help). This is what happened to you, and you made the wise choice. Thank you for your personal stories – they always bring the blog to life (real life)! blesing
Wonderful post Rob.
To love, we must first surrender our expectations of it. When we do, love is allowed to send down its grace unencumbered. This is when real live finds our hearts.
Alex
By seeing the uselessness of hostility for what it is – useless, we are able to return to our natural consciousness of love. This is my way or restating what you are pointing to, Alex; thank you for helping me refine this thought. blessings
Hi Rob,
This is wonderful. What would the world be if we all live in love. If we all focus on love, a lot of things would be different. We should all learn “unconditional love.” We have to love without expecting anything in return. It is hard, but we should make an effort to reach this stage (if it is possible) Thanks Rob
Know that the conquest of anger helps us see ultimate reality (ONENESS). A sense of ultimate ONENESS is intimate LOVE! NICE. Thank you for helping me see this more clearly, Dia. Anger is trying to love, but expecting something in return (no good). blessings
I really dig this topic. I’m all about spreading the love – “One Love” as Bob Marley sang, baby. For all my hangups and struggles in other areas I’m darn good at acceptance and appreciation. It’s all just love, love, love. People have to understand that love is easy. Sometimes I get a kick out of telling my guy friends I love them. They don’t know what to do with that but at a certain level they get it. That’s fun. This is a great message, Rob and I am on board. The more we teach, preach and practice love the better off the world is. You are right, any ideas we think we know about love are wrong, wrong wrong… It’s all about going out and expressing it! Preach on brother!
A foolish man causes his own lack of loving feelings, but blames others, Rus. You are not a foolish man (that is clear to me). blessings
Well this is quite different this week. I’m not sure I’ve ever really thought much about Love like this. I always kind of thought about love just in terms of my wife and family – beyond that I’m not sure what I think. It’s kind of weird for me to think that I could have love for the different contractors and vendors I work with day in and day out. However, I like the idea of trying… I will do it quietly because I think I will freak people out.
If we just offer love, and add nothing to it, Roger, we don’t freak folks out (it’s the adding to it that freaks folks out). blessings
Rob,
The power of love is practically indescribable. With love all “No’s” can be replaced with compassion. All differences can be tolerated and the world can be a much more caring and peaceful environment. You asked some really great questions that have me reflecting on the true answers that are buried deeply within myself. I enjoyed reading this. Great Post.
Never fight one thought with another thought, Frank, this is where the frustration enters. You are becoming more clear with holding one thought only – therein lies your power of love! blessings
Rob, there was just so much here bud. One of your best in a long time. Wow. This paragraph really made me think:
1. I would forget all untruths that have me living cautious (daring not to dance as though no one is watching.)
2. I would accept everyone as they are – I would not think it my job to change anything about anyone.
3. I would refuse to allow petty annoyances to get under my skin; I would not think it my duty to react from thoughts of badness.
I used to think I could change people. Now I realize that I can’t. They change themselves because of the feelings they have from within. That’s just how it works.
Thanks for all you do Rob. Again, this was tremendous.
marcus
Relax our way upward to true love – that’s the key, Marcus; this is my underlying mission (and you are noticing that with your comment). Thanks for noticing; blessings.
Hi Rob, It’s too bad most of the world has such a corrupted view of love. What’s cool is when we have the right view of love we can go into our day and practice it on anything at anytime. As long as we are mindful we can turn the simplest acts into acts of love. Like this morning the blog reminded me to express love in the world, so when I got off the bus this morning I thanked the bus driver. It’s as easy as that! cool huh? Thanks for the reminder. I need to keep up the habit now.
A ‘corrupted view of love’ causes a certain tiredness in ourselves, John ( a tiredness that we’ve all experienced when we pursue the Hollywood version of love). Thank you for that phrase, I like it. blessings
The love I must constantly work at is loving myself. Laughter is magic. I take myself way too seriously. When I am loving myself I see others, like me, stumbling in humanity and I want to share hugs and inspiration.
I can not talk myself out of being annoyed or judgemental. I must be a different person(loving me)who has no need or percieved benefit from judging you. I know there are different paths to bliss, peace, nirvana, whatever your word, and I know that for me loving is the path. I love this quote “Together, in love, we are divine” that says it all for me.
Self-seriousness is a frustrated arrow looking for a target, Sylvia. Even when searching for love, when we take the search too seriously – we find ourselves crying out, “What’s the use of it all?” Never listen to this thought-voice … remind yourself of your favorite quote: “Together, in love, we are divine,” and add the following “and in this heavenly state my opinions are always true.” Now you have given practical direction to your favorite quote (if it ain’t practical, it ain’t spiritual .. is it, Sylvia?) blessings
thank god my feet don’t stink no more
NICE ONE, Sylvia! blessings
Rob,
I loved this topic very much. I feel strongly about this as well. Love is not an abstract idea but a real living energy that needs expression in our lives. When we allow love to guide us and to flow through our lives we are transformed as are those we share the love with. You’re right we need to make it real by expressing it and living it in the real world. Thanks so much for sharing your wisdom with us.
It is a basic human urge to express love, Angela,and you are very tuned into that urge; I’ve noticed that in other comments you’ve made. Thank you
I think I need to meet the right woman and fall madly in love. I think this is the key to solving my hangups and beat the general malaise I feel. I wouldn’t be prone to drink too much and would be more motivated to advance my career if I had good woman behind me. This I know. It seems most successful happy people have good woman behind them. I think real love is just supporting someone to be the best they can be. Ultimately I want someone to accept me for me. I’m very accepting person but have never met the right woman yet… why is it so hard to meet people?
You will not find someone to accept you ‘as you’, Alan, UNTIL YOU ACCEPT YOU ‘AS YOU’ (it’s all in the vibration). blessings.
You know, I’m beginning to come around to this. Just when I think I’ve tried everything I think, come on Ramone you havent yet tried everything. I used go through my days doing the exact opposite of everything you preach in this blog. All that has gotten me is agitation and unemployment. “What would your life be like if you kept your attention on loving possibilities?” I would have to change my name to Loving Ramone first
. I see what you mean. My outlook and demeanor have clearly NOT been working for me – If I were to adopt loving principles and action to be my primary concern I do believe I would have a big turnaround. I am on my way. I am confident Iam making the right choices lately. Thanks rob.
Imagine the ‘I AM’ that you’d represent yourself to be if you called yourself ‘loving Ramone’ rather than ‘angry Ramone’ …. that’s a big one, Ramone. I love your insight. thank you
Hi Rob,
I love your post on love:) We do not have to be victims of our own egos. We do indeed become stuck in harsh judgements. We can be unfair and very wrong in those judgements. You said we should let love be our friend. Yes! We should also be a friend to love. Thanks Rob!
Hi Dandy, thank you for your tip … ‘not only allow love to be our friend … be a friend to love’. When knocking on love’s door, knock loudly! NICE. thank you
Hi Rob, I do believe that real love is friendship. The word love is just too loaded and mixed up in Western Culture. I experience deep love for all the friends around me. I am wealthy man in that regard. I see that real prosperity is having many, many loving relationships. It is available to everyone. True success in this world can be measured by the breadth and depth of a man’s friends. When we embrace love we realize the infinite extent of our connections.
Now that is a profound and insightful comment, Salty. You are a wise man! T’is human carelessness to not notice the breadth and depth of one’s relationships. blessings
Hi Rob, I’ve always been pegged as a “tough love” kind of guy. Where does that fit in? I want the best for everyone in my life and I think the only way people become successful is if they are pushed. It may be harsh or uncomfortable at times but it is always in their best interest. I know my daughters thank me for it now. I think everyone expresses love very differently. At the end of the day real love goes beyond being nice – it is about sincerely wanting those closest to us to fulfill their potential.
Nature practices ‘tough love, Georgie. She works with you, but if you bend her rules you will suffer the consequences. Try living unnaturally for a couple of weeks and watch what happens (stuff yourself with greasy junk food and stay up all night every night partying). If we want the jewels hidden in the dragons cave, we must practice tough love when it is necessary. blessings
Rob,
First of all, I love the custom artwork man!
Really powerful message here. And I love your closing remarks:
“to really KNOW LOVE, you must go out into the world and express LOVE”
That’s the Law of Attraction at it’s best brother!….and it’s so true.
Great post Rob!
What we can become is far greater than what we think until we think about ourselves in a loving manner, Jason. This is also the law of attraction in action. thank you
I never ever judge anyone anymore. Allowing people to be exactly as they are is a big key to feeling liberated from hum drum worldly affairs. People spend so much time criticizing and condemning that they never look at themselves. Love is seeing the goodness and beauty in everyone and everything. We might not agree with some of the superficial fronts people put on, but when we look really deeply we can love every soul equally.
Nice noticement, Alicia … we don’t have to agree with the ‘fronts’ some folks put on, but that does not stop us from allowing them to be who they choose to be (with loving compassion). NICE. blessings
Yo WHAt up Rob-oooo! I gotcha on this one! It’s like all the HATERS out there need to become LOVERS. I see them everywhere!!! People are ALWAYS Hating on me because I got the MAGIC touch – girlZ $$$, Mad STYLZE. And why because I’m a LOVER not a HATER. All those people that go around HATING need to Go around LOVING. If they did this they’d be as DOPE as YOU and ME, ROBBY BOY!! AHAHAHAHAH!!!! If they went around LOVING EVERYTHING they could have the $$, CARS and GIrls 2. PEace OUT – G-man!
Where might we begin on this new course of LOVE to help others experience the truth, Magic Marc! Let the world become acquainted with the LOVING magic, Marc! blessings
You sing a brave and true song Rob. So happy I finally stopped by your blog. I especially admire and agree with your point that love doesn’t mean too much unless or until we give it expression.
Mind you, it doesn’t need a big flashy display. Sometimes Love can be expressed perfectly simply by a glance: a glance of compassion, or reassurance, perhaps. With you brother. Blessings.
How can I use my mind to clear my mind of fear so that I might live from my natural state of LOVE? That is a question that is nobler than the stars, Christopher. Welcome aboard; stick around; you have something to offer! blessings
Hi Rob, This is an interesting one for me. It took me a while to really grasp. I’ve always been an edgy dude who likes taking down the competition. I guess I love to compete. It brings out the best in me. I always did this with a chip on my shoulder. I think it is possible to be the best at what were up to with a different attitude though. If I had to do it all over again I would spend more time appreciating the game and players rather than thinking everyone was out to get me. It would been more fun and less ulcers!
The ‘ole chip on my shoulder’ routine, Richard; we all get caught in that one at times. What makes self-transcendence possible – awareness. Nice awareness, Richard; you are on yur way to higher living. blessings
Hi Rob. I love spreading the love with my music. I have the most fun when I just play on the street. I get the biggest thrill out of stopping people dead and their tracks. It’s like they snap out of their heads and remember there is so much beauty and love in the world.
NICE, Wynton, you develop your talent so that others might enjoy it. Is that not the way of the mockingbird who sings for everyone to enjoy! (it’s the natural thing to do – others should consider it). thank you
So true Rob. I didn’t know what love was until I got sick (nothing serious). There were a few people who showed up at the hospital that I never would have expected to see. It was so altruistic it changed me profoundly. It made me see what love really is… sometimes its as simple as showing up. There are really no words for it… like you said it is just going out and expressing it.
I am glad you gave this example, Jerry. It is a beautiful example of demonstrating love – simply show up to be with someone who is feeling down (physically or emotionally). Thank you.
I just wanted to chime in and say that I managed to really practice this all week. It made such a difference in my overall attitude. I want to keep it going. It was like a lightness set in. Just knowing I could treat everyone and anything with love first was profound. It was like, hey you dont have to get angry and agitated at everything. Thanks for this
I love that you are taking these blogs the extra mile, Sharlene, and not only responding to them, but actually ‘actualizing’ the information into your life by acting on it! That’s powerful. blessings
Rob, what can I say? I’m a big believer in love as I’ve seen its trasnformative powers. All good things coem from love, flow through love and return to love. Lenny Kravitz got it right: let love rule.
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