June 13th, 2010 by rob white
How many times have you heard someone say, “What’s wrong with you?” when they catch you doing something wrong. Why is it, that we are not asked, “What’s right with you?” Why are so many mind’s trained to look for what’s wrong?
Right now, might I take a moment to tell you a couple of things that I consider ‘right with you’ … (1) If you are reading this blog – then you are interested in self-advancement. That is right with you. (2) If you are a commenter on this blog site (or any blog site) – then you are interested in contributing to the betterment of others and are willing to go the extra mile to do so. That is very right with you. (3) If you make it a point to share the great knowledge you are seeking (for your own growth and development) with others – then you are lifting humanity up a notch. That is incredibly right with you.
I hope you have taken the time to notice many of the things that are right with you. Do you take the time, daily, to pat yourself on the back about these things? Right now – what would you be willing to share with me (and others that read this weekly blog)? Will you leave a comment, telling us what is right with you?
Here is a couple of things that is right with me:
(1) I always joyfully say “bless you” when someone sneezes (even someone in line at the post office). I love giving out blessings for free. It always gets a warm reception.
(2) When I give money to a homeless person and that person says ‘thank you’, I love to say, “I want to thank you for accepting this from me.” (it always ends up with eye contact and an exchange of warm smiles). I believe I get more out of it than the one I am giving to.
(3) When I am driving my car and someone honks at me … I nod, smile, and lip synch, “I’m sorry” … even if I do not have a clue what the honking is about. I love getting along rather than honking my horn!
It is the little things that are right with me and you that add up to US being a contribution in life. YOU DO MAKE A DIFFERENCE – you know that about yourself (don’t you)? Again, consider taking a moment to share what is right with you – don’t feel embarrassed – it will help other readers of this blog to consider what is right with them. Now you are priming the ‘rightness pump’ for everyone. There you go – making a positive difference in life once again.
Also, Roger Pascal is going to begin his 90-DAY 180 Mind Adventure tomorrow. Roger is going to expose himself. He is going to expose his Thought-self (the Counterfeit-Self that he put together in childhood moments of fear and pain). We all have one. He is exposing the ‘self’ to himself and to everyone who follows his incredible journey so that he may transform his relationship with himself and allow his original, unlimited nature to shine through. This can be an extraordinary opportunity for you to learn more about the nature of being human. Join in – follow this Reality Blog Adventure.
Wow, I love this blog. I will tell you what is right with me: I am very generous and always overtip when eating out. I get a big kick out of being generous. Also, another thing that is right with me is that I love to learn new things that help me improve my life. I am proud of that. Thanks for letting you know what is right with me!
Hey Rus, I can feel your enthusiasm in your comment about what is right with you. It is the enthusiastic attitude that truly makes a difference (much moreso than the facts). Thanks for that.
Well, I’m a helluva sailor.
It is revelatory when we really take a look at how much time and energy we spend chastising ourselves for messing up. It’s almost like we make it our duty to be harsh on ourselves. It boggles my mind when I see the insanity of it… so much time and energy wasted!
And I think I funny too… that’s what is right with me
I believe you SaltySailorMan. Indeed you are one helluva sailor, and you have proven many times (with your comments) that you are funny. Great acknowledgements. How does that make you feel, checking in on what is right with you?
Very nice post Rob. I thank God many times a day, help others when they need help, encourage others to be better. These are the things that are right with me. Thanks for sharing Rob
I would expect no less from you, Dia – helping and encouraging others. This is the kind of rightness that really does lift humanity up a notch. I love that about you.
Hey Rob.
I really like this post, I actually learned something.. ha ha. I’m not gonna lie, I think you can agree with me that a lot of blogs out there spit lots of rehash–it’s the personality of the writer that keeps people coming back.
Anyway, I like your idea of saying “what’s right with you”
I’m definitely stealing this from you and before saying your catchy phrase, I will say, “I have a friend who always says, ” what’s right with you,”—lemme tell you about this concept…
Anyway, good stuff.
Cheers,
–Parker
Hey Parker, I will tell you one thing that I notice is ‘right with you’ – your integrity. Your honesty to life, to yourself and to others clearly shines through. What a great thing to have ‘right with you’. Thank you.
Hi Rob,
I like doing things anonymously and imagining the surprise of the person and the wonder they may have at who could have done it. My brother pulled this one on me today. He pulled weeds while I was busy doing an interview, and after he left, I realized it and smiled in my heart. I like believing I can affect another that way.
Sandra
I like what you have shared about ‘what is right with you’ Sandra. That’s a good one. W. Clememt Stone called that ‘sneaking around behind people’s back, helping them’ (instead of hurting them). What a great world it would be, Sandra, if everyone was doing what you are doing.
Hi Rob,
This is a cool concept. I could use this one. I always ask myself “what’s wrong with me?” usually after my boss catches me making a mistake.
So, what’s right with me is that I’m really dedicated to improving my life now. I will keep this concept in mind during the 90 day adventure. I’m excited to get started.
Roger
I look forward to coaching you through your 90-Day transformational Mind Adventure, Roger. With that attitude, you are going to find a real lot of stuff RIGHT WITH YOU. Thanks for who you are.
Fantastic post and you are so right. Too many minds are trained to see the negative and not the positive. Thanks for sharing that.
Yes, Billy … the world will teach us to focus too much on what is wrong with us. The world will say that we have to focus on ‘what’s wrong’ to change, but then the world condemns us for being wrong. It is how we look at ourselves (attitude) that matters so much with how we conduct our lives. Thanks for the share
Hey Rob, I’m just like you, I always say bless you and I often give change to homeless people and give that extra eye contact and smiles too.
Theres a lot right with me
1) I love helping people
2) I love making people laugh
3) I’m not afraid to offer constructive criticism
4) I enjoy mentoring young people..
Oh there’s so much more and so little time!
I love your statement, Amit. “So much right with me and so little time to share it all’. If everyone were to see themselves that way, we would have a society filled with helpful (rather than hurtful folks). That would be heaven on earth. Thanks for the input.
What is right about me is easy: I love to laugh and my laughter is contagious (so I am told). This is what saves me from feeling sorry for myself when I think I have been taken advantage of. It also helps me break the ice when someone is feeling awkward for some reason.
Yes, Bonnie, laughter is a wonderful contagion – what a great thing to notice ‘is right with you’.
What a refreshing, delightful post! What is right with me is that I have a ready smile for everyone I meet, and a deep compassion for anyone going through a tough time. Plus, when I have chocolate or another treat, I always share
Can I have a chocolate, Jean? I love that ‘rightness about you’ – sharing your box of chocolates. If it ain’t practical, it ain’t spiritual. I can see that you are a spiritual being by the wonderful things that you have mentioned that are ‘right about you (a smile and deep compassion). Thank you.
Hey Rob,
I really like the honesty that is in your writing. I also get a very big kick out of being generous and giving. What we give out we get back. It really just an energy thing.
Yes, Baker, the cosmos is a grand cosmic boomerang that always returns ‘that’ which we have tossed out there. There is no getting around it. Indeed, it is an ‘energy thing’.
Hi Rob,
I love this post. It’s so refreshing to talk about what’s right with us for a change –
What’s right with me is that I truly believe there’s more good in the world than bad and that people are basically good.
Seeing the good and doing good is how I choose to live.
Thanks for this excellent exercise Rob.
Angela, I imagine the world would be a far more wonderful place to experience if everyone believed there was more good in it than bad. The Law of Harmonious Attraction would have a ball with that. That is clearly one thing that is ‘most right with you’!
Ah, such a great topic Rob. What’s right with me? I love it.
Well, this morning I passed a guy selling newspapers to cars passing. I didn’t get one. As I drove by, though, I felt that he was feeling kinda down. Although I thought I might be late to my appointment, I went back and gave him a nice sum of cash. It felt great. I love to pass on something to others and sometimes, as you point out, cash is a good one to give. Love your words to those whom you do pass it on.
Next, my friends and I frequently tell one another all the things we love and adore about the other. It’s a natural outpouring, not something we plan but rather something that comes straight from the heart. That’s something very right about me. And the fact that I have such remarkable friends – I see that as something “right” about me.
Very cool Rob. I love your post. You give so much love and upliftment.
Let’s focus more on what’s “right” about us and our world for that matter (because there is a tremendous negative focus on what’s wrong with “the world” when so very much is right and we get to live on this amazing planet in our amazing bodies and develop our own individual way of being here. Does it get better?
Warm regards,
Lauren
Lauren, it is ‘appreciative spirits’ like you that help this planet to flourish in so many ways. What we appreciate paves the way for more of the same to come our way. Your energy alone paves the way for the grand cosmic boomerang to deliver more of the stuff that makes life so wonderfully satisfying for everyone. You are a generous soul. Thank you for that.
Nice illustrations!
Thanks! That’s Noteman — Glad you enjoy
– Nick
Rob: I really liked this post. I think you are so right that so often we are focusing on what is wrong, instead of looking at all the things we are doing right. When we can change our perspective and really appreciate all of our contributions and good things we are doing, often times expanding them and doing more right comes naturally. I really like that you mouth “I’m sorry” when another driver honks at you, even if you don’t understand why … now that is tolerance, acceptance and total kindness
you are learning at a young age, Sibyl, that life only works if we work life in a loving way ( which includes a consciousness of prosperity). What’s right about you, Sibyl, is that you love to point out what is right about others. Thank you.
Hi Rob,
I’m in Gratitude daily. I’m a considerate driver too — you never know if someone is rushing off to an emergency. I’m taking action towards my goals consistently. I’m thankful for all of life’s lessons that have contributed to my spiritual growth.
Your post brings to mind a grade school music teacher that said, ‘when you make a mistake, make it loud and proud. That way we can hear it and fix it!’ That’s one great way to make a ‘wrong’ into a ‘right.’
Thank you for your awesome energy Rob!
What a great habit, Kim – experiencing gratitude daily. I love the tip: ‘when making a mistake, make it loud and proud – so you can boldly fix it’. If we hide our mistakes we feel guilty. This adds to the problem. Thank you, Kim.
I find the tht the best thing tht is ‘right with me’ is that I have learned to stop condemning myself when I think of things that are ‘wrong with me’. How much easier it is to live with myself!
That’s very creative Rob
) very nice post
What’s right with you?
Thanks, Farouk …. I am curious about what is right with you. Will you take a peek and let us know? One thing that is right with you that is you are complimentary. Everyone likes to be complimented. you walk around giving away a great gift. thanks.
Rob -
What is right with me? I’m striving to practice kindness and compassion to others by stopping to help if I see need. It’s a small contribution, however every drop counts. Good post, sir!
Phil
What a great ‘striving’, phil ….kindness and compassion. What if the whole world took the time to strive that way? Indeed, a different world it would be. Thank you
Hey Rob, now there’s a post worth re-reading! I get a lift flipping that mental switch and shining a light on what’s right with me (and everybody else for that matter). Choices. So much of what makes up our outlook in life is about choices.
Today, I’m kicking ass on what’s right with me. I gave a big tip to my hair guy. I took a break — a real break — during my work day. I smiled at all the strangers I made eye contact with during my break. I could go on…thanks to your encouragement.
Love it!
jeez, Belinda, when you share what is right with you – you put some ooomph behind it. I love it. I can feel that it. You’d be great at a party. thankyou.
Rob,
What a wonderful way of looking and asking in such a positive way. I am happy to find your positive mind adventure blog here.
Here is what is right with me;
1. I want to change myself first before changing anyone.
2. I do not wish to be someone else, I like myself
3. I happy with my failures as long as I learn from it
4. I am happy and feel lucky be able to write my thoughts on my heart and mind blog and read many wonderful blogs and learn from it.
Thanks for such a positive read today!
It sounds to me, Zengirl, that you are a girl practicing Zen. It shows with what you shared that is ‘right with you’. Keep it up and surely there will be lots more to come – the ‘law of harmonious attraction’ see to that. blessings.
What is right with me today is that I gave blood. I love it when I am willing to go that far in order to help others.
That is beautiful, John, giving blood to help others. What could be a more powrful way of saying ‘I am here to serve’?
Just imagine how much better the world would be if children were asked “What’s right with you?” all the time!
As my children are heading off to bed I like to ask them “What was the best part of your day?” It helps them to go to bed in a positive frame of mind.
I know have a new question I am going to ask them regularly. Thanks for that! I think you are on to something wonderful.
And that is one thing that is right with me – my ability to help my children reach for the best within themselves.
You touched my heart, Leisa, the way you presented your comment (and how you related your children to the conversation). You are a great mom, and a philosopher (no doubt).
What I found to be ‘right with me’ today was my patience. I waited for two hours, hoping to get a glimpse at Robert DeNiro (who was supposedly in a boat at the local dock). He never came up on deck. It was still worth the patience – what a great breeze at the ocean today.
When someone sneezes, I instinctively say “bless you” even if I’m across the room. Every now and again, it catches people off guard…
No, in regards to your post. I gotta be honest here. Sometimes, I slip in and out of this mindset. I have my moments. Sometimes, I’m totally pumped and know what’s right with me (I’m motivated, I have momentum, I’m crushing it). Then, other times, I’m sluggish because I find something wrong. I critique myself and frankly, I can be my own worst critique.
In any case, I love the idea of framing things this way because it’s much more constructive towards our daily routine/goals.
Thank you for your honesty, Ricardo. We all have times when we cannot think of one thing that is ‘right with us (or even if we think of what is ‘right with us’, we cannot feel it). The 60,000 NO’s that we hear from age 3 to 13 can drum a whole lot of ‘what’s wrong with you’ into us. I love your willingness to be so honest so that we may all learn.
I like this blog pointing to ‘what’s right with me’. I do not give that enough attention. I was taught to think I must pay most of my attention to what is wrong with me and fix it. I like my flexibility. I am willing to spend more time looking at the other end of the coin – ‘what’s right with me’.
Hi Rob,
Thanks for stopping at my blog. My first time here and I love it. I know exactly what you are talking about. I’m big into journaling and often get it out and write when I’m in a foul mood. Myself and others deserve more. Sometimes when I still can’t shake it exercise and being in nature will do the trick.
My hubs and I have been fighting over stupid stuff lately. Yesterday we went on a four hour hike in Sedona and it did the trick after only 30 minutes. That’s how I handle it.
YES, Tess, journaling is a great way to focus the mind and to notice what kind of thoughts are dominating one’s attention. Great tip. Thank you. We can tend to get into spats with those that are closest to us. Minds love to claim their independence (even though all minds mingle).
I found something right with me today that I did not know before. I love the planet. I enjoy picking up litter, knowing it helps the planet. I never thought of it as something right with me before.
I love how simple tht is, mannie, that you know picking up litter is ‘right with you’. I never thought of it that way. That’s ‘right with me’, too.
Dear Rob,
Excellent points which reflect exactly how I feel about life – it’s an inner perspective that determines the life we create.
Re: your question about self-talk and how I deal with it. At times when I’m deeply impacted by something I care about, an attachment to something or someone that matters greatly – I find my self talk not to be so hunky dory.
Truthfully, there are times it takes awhile to pull myself out and get back on a more empowered track. And sometimes I consciously allow myself to be there for awhile because I just feel I want to embrace it and see it through. Then, I can move forward into the warm fuzzy self-talk.
In general, though, I spend oh so much more time in the feeling good states and I believe it’s because I’ve learned tools that have helped me tremendously to enjoy my life more and more. It really is a wonderful feeling.
I can see, Rob, that you’re there too. I love your focus on how we can experience greater joy!
Thanks,
Lauren
It’s all an inside / out jb, isnn’t it, Lauren. Inner perpsective paves the way for our outer experiences. When our conditioned mind gets ahold of our self-talk, it can be like a runaway train – not easy to regain command – but with practice it gets easier. Taking a moment to deliberately listen to the negative self-talk can give us our power back (as you mentioned) because consciousness is a process of self-powerment. Thanks for the tip
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Hi Rob,
that’s a very creative post! now a few things that are right with me; i love making people laugh and helping people in any way i can. I try to not think of this world materialistically and give away money to the poor and needy. One more thing that is right with me is the respect I have for elders and the attitude i have for receiving criticism. One other thing that is right about me is the reason for my stay in Canada. I want to learn all the good things through my stay in western nations and implement them back home(Pakistan). I try to share my knowledge with the people, provide better health care and education to those who are deprived of these basic necessities. And the list definitely goes on but I will stop here.
God bless you for sharing your thoughts with us.
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