December 1st, 2009 by rob white
If you intend to win at life, you must learn to complete on what you say you are going to do. Nothing creates a self-sabotaging attitude like being incomplete with your promises; be they to yourself or to others. Soon you find yourself going through your days with a dull and unseeing stare.
When you do NOT spend your time completing your projects and goals, your mind fills up your time with tail-chasing drama that has you spinning in circles. Some folks think that tail-chasing drama is as good as it gets. They use this drama as an excuse NOT to finish what they promised they would do: “I don’t have time to finish; life demands too much of me.”
Why do so many folks procrastinate so often? Well, if they don’t complete on what they said they would do, no one can belittle them for failing, and they’d rather be criticized for procrastinating than be told they are too dumb to succeed. There is an erroneous presupposition with this kind of logic – they assume they don’t have what it takes.
Many intelligent students with inferiority complexes drop out of school because they fear they will fail, and would rather quit than be called dumb (which they’re not).
It is important to underline a fact here: the decision to quit or procrastinate indefinitely … guarantees failure. It’s limiting decisions of this nature that feed into false feelings of inferiority, which inevitably destroy all of your ideals from becoming real.
What to do to break the habit of procrastinating and quitting: Hold this as your foremost rule, “I will be loyal to my unlimited nature, no matter what the problem may be. I will not allow a blow to my false pride stop me.” Continually remind yourself that there is infinitely more to you than meets the eye and take your word seriously. You will be startled at what you find you can do.
Ohh… Thats a good one. Had one of those ‘wheel spinning’ days today. Tomorrows a new day — thanks for the tip!
Yea Dean! I know what you mean, the whole rat spinning on a wheel thing. I feel like a lot of times we ALL get distracted by so many things, especially now with the Internet, it’s easy to become unfocused and give in to that excuse of “I don’t have time.” I’ve certainly done it myself in the past, but now I continually work towards that razor sharp focus of completing things that I set out to do.
I like the idea of being complete. That’s a new way of looking at my goals.
Hey, “I don’t have time.” that’s a habit I have to break. thanks. loved your workshop in N.Y.
that’s a guarantee I don’t need – failure. I’m working on completing more things these days.
I find my false pride is always stopping me from being flexible. How can I stop it from dictating what I do?
there is infinitely more to me! I want to live it. Keep it coming
It has been a long time since I have startled myself with what I can do. I am ready for another one of those moments. I have your book. I am ready!
Thanks for the tip of being loyal to the part of me that makes me most happy. My grandmother used to tell me I must pay attention to the identity I am loyal to. Then she’s ask if I liked that part of me?
it is difficult to be loyal to something you do not believe in. I have a problem believing I am unlimited.
Now that would be great for me to notice all the t hings I do not complete. Could be a great wakeup call. My wife would tell me of dozens of things I am not complete with
hesitate and you lose. Be complete and you win. This makes perfect sense. I have yet to win at anything when I continually stop myself before completing on it by hesitating, hesitating, hesitating.
I can see there is more to a lot of people than meets the eye, but I have a hard time noticing it in me. I think I have become loyal to a small part of me and it is time to take a second look at myself. thanks.
Kip, perhaps your wife means well when she tells you of all the things she doesn’t think you’re complete with. The trick is to prioritize the things that are important to you and complete those.
Dean had a wheel spinning day the other day. Well that’s what today is for me – all spinning like a rat on a wheel. I refuse to say “I don’t have time to finish.”
we all have dozens of friends who tell us dozens of things that we are incomplete about. My job is to look at myself and pay less attention to what others are not finishing.
I’ve got stop perusing the web and get back to work.
It amazes me how many people I meet that are so talented, and yet feel inferior to others who don’t have nearly their talent.
My boyfriend and I are forever getting caught up in tail-chasing drama, but I can’t seem to stop it with him
Breaking promises is being incomplete, and it never works. Too much of that going around these days.
Whenever I have a breakthrough, it startles me. I guess I still feel I am incompetent to be all I can be
Loyalty to one’s unlimted nature; now that’s the way to go! I’m loyal to booze and rock-n-roll. It gets me high but I don’t stay up there long enough.
Life crowds me. I have too much to do in a day. Haven’t the time to complete on everything. That’s life these days!
Life is moving a lot faster than ever before, Manson. You’ve got to slow your mind down to catch up.
Ever since I lost the job I loved, I am going through my day with a dull, unseeing stare. Life feels depressing.
A good tool I use to develop good habits is http://www.goalhappy.com It allows me to share my progress with friends which I think is really helpful!