November 27th, 2009 by rob white
You cause yourself to experience ‘Wow is Me’ when you pre-plan how your life shall be. ‘Wow is Me’ has you TENDING your behavior ahead of time; which is to Pre-Tend.
You have the inexorable right to create yourself to be as you intend to experience yourself. You have to set it up in your mind ahead of time and walk through life as though it is so, if it is to demonstrate through you. No one can do this for you.
Each of us carry within us an image of who we desire to be, and no one carries the same image. Every blade of grass is a different shade of green, and every human being is a different hue of personality.
Those folks who aspire to experience the joy of their unique creation, move toward that image with eager anticipation. They are willing to endure any hardship because their sights are set on the pleasure of the accomplishment. These folks engage in the fine art of Pre-Tending. They love pre-planning those tendencies and qualities they want as part of their personality. This empowering approach to life is a golden elixir. It offers psychic success which is the attainment of self-empowering wisdom.
There are other folks who are driven to avoid the pain of embarrassment. They make it their priority to convince others they are someone they are not. Looking good and avoiding ridicule are more important to them than creating themselves to be the unique individual they came here to experience. These folks engage in the act of ‘pretending’ – which is trying to look good for others, hoping to cover up the flawed-self they falsely consider themselves to be. This disempowering approach to life feeds into low self-esteem and has the individual feeling inferior. It dampens the individual’s spirit and stifles his creative energy.
The happiness you get from self-creation is a thousand times grander than material accomplishments.
I love the idea of pre-tending. I used it today. I leaned in a new direction than usual and my boss reponded positively. I planned it out ahead of time. Kudos.
my girlfriend and I are practicing pre-tending at school. We find we get caught up in trying to impress our friends and feel phony. great lesson!
I find I so try not to be embarrassed, and I can see how it stops me from trying new things. lately, I have been stepping outside my box even if I do feel embarrassed, it’s scarey but exciting.
easier said than done. I can’t break old habits that easily. Any more tips on what to do next?
I havea friend who pretends to be someone he’s not, and it always gets on my nerves. Yet, he still insists that everyone puts on airs and that is the only way to get what you want.
I have spend so much time pretending to be who I’m not, so my friends will like me, that I’m not sure who I would be if I tried to act naturally.
I never gave any thought to the idea of creating myself. I guess I thought it just happened. Just saying it like that makes me feel like I have more power over my personality than I realized.
Yes, Cheryl …. I used to pretend I had a degree to impress others, and eventually it caught up with me. Wow, was that ever awful!
Tending my behavior ahead of time has helped me to pay more attention to how I react when someone speaks to me angrily. I used to walk around with a chip on my shoulder. Not any more. What a relief!
Hey Ned, your personality doesn’t just spring on you from nowhere. You had to nurture it in order for it to get strength in your life. I am redoing my personality right now. I don’t like the many flaws I find my current personality to have.
Is pre-tending and pretending just a matter of semantics? I find I still feel pretentious when I tend to act any way other than the same old me? What am I doing wrong?
Thanks Marilyn for admitting it can feel pretentious to pre-tend. I find if I endure, the awkwardness goes away.
What to do, Karen, to break old habits, is to culture a ‘now-awareness’; this allows you to catch the habit before it takes physical.
I didn’t know every blade of grass is a different shade of green. That’s a great reminder that each of us is a different shade of humanity. thanks
Hey arbie, it took me six months to get rid of my ‘woe is me’ personality, but boy is it worth it!
The value of ridding yourself of ‘woe is me’, Karr, in infinitely greater than any cheap thrill you may get when wallowing in that mentality. That’s a great discovery!
I love feeling ‘wow is me’ but in these trying times I find it harder to do.
What does the word ‘inexorable’ mean … you can’t ‘X’ it out?
I am one of those who is driven to avoid the pain of embarassment at any cost. I often clam up rather than have someone possibly make fun of me.